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2012-01-20T14:18:00.000-08:00

Chomeheart & Usher team!

2012-01-20T14:03:00.000-08:00

I.O Camp 2012 & Chromeheart.

2012-01-20T13:53:00.000-08:00

Black is Back with Arthur’s Day 2011

2011-09-14T08:46:00.000-07:00

Yay, Taio cruz is coming to town ! Guinness Malaysia is organising aWorldwide celebration with Taio Crus, Miss Nina, and many other artist. I really excited and happy and can't wait to see them live!

Detail of the Arthur’s Day 2011 celebrations:

Date: 23 September 2011 which is (Friday)
Time: 6pm onwards
Venue: Speed City KL, Selangor Turf Club

Artist that are performing:

MIZZ NINA
A bundle of infectious energy and catchy tunes, Mizz Nina is Malaysia’s undisputed princess of urban pop. This all-round “it” girl reached a new level of fame with the release of her solo album, “What You Waiting For”, featuring the extremely catchy lead single of the same name (with Colby O’ Donis).

Previously known for her rapping chops as a member of AIM award-nominated group, Teh Tarik Crew, Mizz Nina is a multi-talented artist whose groove-hungry soul and love of infectious beats win over her new fans and collaborators (e.g. Flo Rida on her latest single “Takeover”).

Sleek and sexy, Mizz Nina always turns up the heat with her electrifying sounds of R&B, hip-hop and dance.

KARTEL
The Kartel Made Men are some of the region’s finest hip-hop exponents with their slick rhymes, spitfire wordplay and swagger beyond measure.

Founded in 2010 by Malaysian hip-hop mogul Joe Flizzow, their recently released debut self-titled album featured collaborations with South-East Asia’s biggest rap stars such as Thaitanium and Sheikh Haikel. The lead single off the album, “Who Do It Better”, was one of the defining hip-hop tracks of 2010/2011.

Leading the charge for Kartel at Arthur’s Day will be Joe Flizzow, SonaOne, Take-T (Japan) and Dandee (Thailand). Don’t be surprised if other ‘made men’ made an appearance, as these guys make going with the flow an art form.

SOLER
Hailing from Macau, this Hong Kong based rock duo wow their fans and critics alike with electric on-stage chemistry and stellar songwriting. Their strong bond could be due to the fact that they’re twin brothers, Julio and Dino Acconci. The songwriting? Pure talent.

Their musical style blends rock, soul and folk that works exceptionally well in live performances. Their debut album “Double Surround Sound” stormed the Hong Kong charts and showcased their multi-lingual chops, with songs sung in English, Cantonese and Mandarin.

Since then, they’ve become a common fixture in the Hong Kong mainstream scene, regularly appearing on radio, TV and print. Soulful, talented and charming, Soler is definitely an act to look forward to.

DJ SKELETOR
DJ Skeletor has been expertly wooing the crowds in Malaysia with his signature set of ‘ol skool beats, personalized remixes and the best in hip hop, R&B and dance hits.

When he’s not making the party people go wild, DJ Skeletor runs his own mix show on the nation’s no.1 English radio station, hitz.fm. His show, clubhitz is on every Saturday at 10pm onwards and draws in two million listeners from all over Malaysia.

His other role as production engineer for hitz.fm sees him producing the sound and visuals for the hit radio station, proving that he is indeed a man of many talents.

Thank you,
Ong Chin Soon.

weird feelings

2011-08-12T10:45:00.001-07:00

why i at hospital alot ppl keep wan ask me borrow them money ar...too much..=/

Angels Cry - Mariah Carey Ft. Ne-yo (Lyrics)

2010-12-20T08:29:00.000-08:00

angel crys. ;) enjoy!

Life's Good

2010-12-11T09:09:00.000-08:00

Hello people. Life's good...work work work all the time. learn some knowledge here and there..

boss say i like a white paper, everything also don't know. i also feel that too..hahaha. i don't even know how to plug wire into the 3-pin plug. I don't know the coordination...but now, i know! :):) FYI, now currently doing sales...sales assistant. O: life's tough...money not easy earn..

at Empire, Lex. no money ride dy..lol spend all on the salmon steak. shy to speak out..hahahahaa

Flow To You - Full Gospel Baptist Church Fellowship

2010-11-06T10:46:00.000-07:00

i find this inspiring....Whee i attend Full Gospel Fellowship for the 1st time.....woo...quite nice...=)

Leann Rimes - Amazing Grace

2010-11-06T10:42:00.000-07:00

amazing grace :)

Rehabilated

2010-11-04T09:55:00.000-07:00

I promise i will Rehabilated start from now...NEED FIND WORK, and work SERIOUSly dy...no more going church, events, playful around...its a must...that's my life...

i cant believe someone i trusted much have even wanna slap me from the back?! fine..
so much concern as a fren to her and she treated me like what? like dog...walao...
doesnt wanna say much dy...really pissed off ,sad, dissapointed at these kind of fren la....

pls backoff from my life if u dislike wanna be fren to me..i don't mind and dun care too...dun act a rat like i'm the cat...i'm sad....

I-Phone 4

2010-11-04T09:51:00.000-07:00

Whee...got my new i-phone 4...Bluek~~ =P

So far...life's going bad...hmmm...really bad...need money. backstab all the places...sad

YeeSAnnnn

2010-11-04T09:19:00.001-07:00

lalalallaa

RnB & Hip Hop Remix 2010 !!!! Dj SoToS

2010-10-29T21:18:00.000-07:00

Inna - Love (Official Video HD)

2010-10-29T21:04:00.000-07:00

Brick By Boring Brick - Paramore Concert Live in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia ...

2010-10-27T11:31:00.000-07:00

That's What You Get - Paramore Concert Live in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia 2010

2010-10-27T11:29:00.000-07:00

Paramore: crushcrushcrush (LIVE)

2010-10-19T09:48:00.000-07:00

Brick by Boring Brick - Paramore LIVE

2010-10-19T09:38:00.000-07:00

woots*

2010-10-08T10:48:00.000-07:00

duno why. alot happy things happen here and there..suddenly felt so blessed these days. andrew teng, and his sis, alexandra annie teng came back from singapore to visit city harvest KL. they rock man. alex can really sing so so well...i like her sound. her melody...stuned* O_O arghh..miss them singing and jamming at taylor's lakeside campus again...woo....

cg was fun. get punishment twice. lol. posted at fb. ahh...too lembab for d game. -.-'' good luck to those who going baptised tmr...ethan, cheryl, sharon, sherley, xinyi..etc...=)

end of september

2010-09-29T10:28:00.000-07:00

helo...mm...i wan that reign by city harvest. rm49.90....mm...think twice. wow. expensive...><''

hmm...no money no talk. haha. will ask ethan soon. =p

cant wait for cg on friday~~~ :D

Hope of Life.

2010-09-21T11:19:00.000-07:00

hello people. mm...been a while didnt update blog..just a quick update.

Add caption

Batu Feringgi...:)

haha..time 2.18am sleep 1st. ciaoz peeps.

Charice - "Pyramid" featuring Iyaz - Studio Version

2010-09-21T11:09:00.000-07:00

Justin Bieber - Somebody To Love Remix ft. Usher

2010-09-21T09:54:00.000-07:00

usher ft. plies hey daddy (daddy's home)

2010-09-21T09:52:00.000-07:00

[HD]100214 SeoHyun(SNSD) & Shin Seunghun - Falling Slowly @ Open Concert

2010-09-21T09:48:00.000-07:00

19 sept...time pass so fast.

2010-09-19T05:23:00.000-07:00

woohoo...tmr skul reopen..

guess what??? jam lo...highway surely jammed up..lol. dislike dislike*

so far..work. okay...still very blur. sigh...need slapself when i blur weii..sob.

CG was great...happy time. church also good. what god has doing on the earth by David Oh. not bad...

just back from basketball. whee~ happy la. a uncle teach me power shot. O.O

haha..quite fun...then teach me lay up...finally get the real step of lay UP!...:D :D

mm...Love by Jaeson Ma is fabulous...like like*

unfortunately...i DIDNT went to his concert...sigh. regret..lol. somemore elaine asked me whether i wanna go. but i refused~...speechless* dumb dumb me*

haha. work was fun...alot ppl now...more noise, more fun? O.o but usually i am very very...free..duno wat 2 do...but its good. next time i wan go see site...but no knowledge..gosh. go there also duno..i hope i understand HOKIEN la...they usually talk in Hokien which i hardly catch what it means...learn. need catch up fast too...:):)

My cousin Ong Jing Hui birthday today. i hope he doing great there...i do hope so..=)

Oh..last week. i went penang with xinyi, Foo Jia Fong( xinyi cousin). haha..bought 3 Ed-Hardy shirt...everyone stun seeing my new shirt. hahaha..i rmb ethan ask me...woah! how much u buy? i say: rm500?! and sadly ethan do believe haha...i say jk la...if i can efford rm500 per shirt. i'm just not....ME!
rm500x3=rm1,500. woah..rather buy 1 new LCD tv...=D

LOVE by Jaeson Ma [Background Graphics]

2010-09-17T12:07:00.000-07:00

woohoo...raya !

2010-09-07T11:21:00.000-07:00

Hi peeps. How are you feeling? hope u doing great over there...mm...nothing much. came back from church worldwide prayer meeting (cwpm) which is good. learn from both sex what they do and don't. Meet a few new friends...still can't really rmb thier name well. its okay. slowly call a few times can rmb dy i guess...or maybe i just getting older and older lolz.

Raya friday lor..do what on friday, sat, sun? boring day i guess. i do hope got work. or..maybe just sleep at home? mm...no plans yet lor...

Be more mature...

2010-09-07T11:16:00.000-07:00

Hi People. i wanna share some issue from to be mature...from googles. wanna share it. Thanks googles. :)

Experience more. Traveling around the world to visit foreign cultures can help open your mind to the way different people think. Getting involved in groups and hobbies can help you develop your social skills. Spending time with other people will teach you how to be more mature.

Change your interests. Move on from video games and reality shows. Let go of the gossip and worthless blabber. Be interested in things that matter and affect the overall good of people.

Change the way you think and talk. There is a big difference between the way a child and an adult speaks. Speak with confidence and reason. Make your decisions based on reason instead of emotions.

Pray for Wisdom. God gives wisdom and understanding to those who ask for it (Proverbs 8). Just ask God and He will give it to you.

Take on more responsibility. To be more mature you should look for ways to take on more responsibility. You can do this in every part of your life. Find more ways to be responsible for things in your house. Ask for more responsibility at work. Take responsibility for the choices you make in life. Don't blame others for your circumstances.

Do things for yourself. It's easy to pass off a task or a job to other people. Instead of taking the easy way out start doing things for yourself. Learning how to complete more tasks will make you more mature and increase your confidence. If you don't know how to do something don't be afraid to learn.

Care about other people. Selfishness is a common ingredient in immature people. Care about other people's needs and help other people be successful.

Be more self aware. Many people struggle with understanding themselves. To be mature, you need to understand why you have the opinions that you have and why you do the things you do. Be able to express your feelings and communicate them effectively.

TAEYANG (SOL from BIGBANG) - WEDDING DRESS

2010-09-04T12:31:00.000-07:00

Lighthouse Everything Skit

2010-09-04T11:58:00.000-07:00

SteP uP 3D Final BattlE 2010 [HD] PLEASE SUBSCRIBE AND COMMENT

2010-09-04T11:48:00.000-07:00

w10 photoshot...

2010-09-01T09:58:00.000-07:00

Merdeka!! =)

2010-09-01T09:34:00.000-07:00

31th august 2010...whee malaysia birthday...also my fren Guo Qing birthday..wish him twice lolz. 1 during his bath time. 1 at facebook...and ops...3* times i smsed him during 12am++. haha..too excited...

other than that...w10 which is my cell group. we had photosh0t...woots!! awesome. everyone dress so pretty and handsome that day...(:

Step Up 3

2010-08-29T11:03:00.000-07:00

woohoo...glad to hang out with jing huan. (:

went to watched step up 3. great movie.

work again tmr...jia you to myself :P

why everyone is leaving...?

2010-08-26T10:11:00.001-07:00

hello people. I'm doing great here i guess...

Emotion still unstable? haiz...

Financial Problem has haunting me day by day...i need money!!

I wonder is there anyway to get rich? i mean doing good* job..not doing bad* work...

Work? Study? Money? Life is...what? to me? hmm...thinking thinking....

what is the true purpose leh...need find find an good answer...

maybe by serving God? be rich? be famous? still...duno...do you know? please tell me yah :D

sick

2010-08-13T10:57:00.001-07:00

feel sick a while..headache lo..

do work..do until head so so pain. think until cannot think...sad

some don't know do. also do. haiz...

whee 100th post for my blog ^^

2010-08-06T23:05:00.001-07:00

so bored..at office doing ntg. got thing but duno do...sad!!! gao miang..TT

whee its august.

2010-08-06T17:47:00.000-07:00

woohoo..finally i blog back lol. hmm duno what to blog...lala...need to work jor...change some songs and blogskin =) give comments ya. ty ^-^

DIMA 2010 FEST KARA -Lupin

2010-07-26T16:53:00.000-07:00

100522 2010 DreamConcert KARA - LUPIN, Interview, We're with you

2010-07-18T19:56:00.000-07:00

a real friend...

2010-07-17T18:10:00.001-07:00

A real friend is someone who accept you for you, no strings attached. A real friend is someone who knows all the good and the not-so-good about you and still likes you. A real friend is someone who will do anything to help you in a crisis. A real friend is someone who would miss you after you died and only have good things to say to others about you. A real friend is the person you call to share the happiness of the day or the frustrations of life, and listens though you may have said the same things a hundred times before. A real friend is a person who compliments your personality, challenges your choices, and accepts you regardless of the mistakes you make in life.

Real friends are few in ones life and when you find one, return the favor and be a real friend back.

声をきかせて　／　BIGBANG （OFFICIAL MV）

2010-07-17T18:00:00.000-07:00

15-07-2010 1st day of bible study with ethan soh shan yong :)

2010-07-15T12:31:00.001-07:00

had wonderful time with church members just now. 1st lesson bible study...haha mostly know all.smart* haha...just need memorise verses...i thinking way to beyond the verses. sorry for keep u waiting sheyvin. can see ur frastruating emotions/body language* awesome jamming with andy and ethan haha! last but not least...mamak...hungry like a wolf...eat and eat and eat...woo...haha i belanja them. but felt so happy la today. happy day. <3

TaeYang - I Need A Girl [태양] [HD/MV]

2010-07-14T19:57:00.000-07:00

luv it...

2010-07-14T19:56:00.001-07:00

obbedience is what god wants from us.

2010-07-14T02:47:00.001-07:00

saw some cute awesome shih tzu at my ex-colleague house...6 sweezu...very obbedience...say go in house it go in...how nice. owh i rmb 1 shih tzu name is Baby. Aww...so <3 her. haha

Gee (suju, 2pm, 2am, Shinee) - Boys Generation & Snsd

2010-07-14T01:24:00.000-07:00

aiks..saman

2010-07-12T23:41:00.000-07:00

wuwuwu...kena saman liao...sien 1st time? haha...not bad!!!

saman at pj there..i park at starbucks outside...no parking box...haiz...lol saman how much not sure yet....saman under polis diraja de...aiyo..not MPPJ...bad luck..might be expensive than mppj de...hmmm...sad...but nvm. lesson learned dun simply park car....woooooo....xD saman still happy..cuz pay for me not me..but my lovely kind father <3

life is good i guess...i change work dy lor if those who don't know..i actually work in senHeng but now i change dy...=) to a better environment. i like my collegue, boss, time(in and out), work to do..;) now..i mostly do office work...do what? hmm..do invoice, key details, answer calls from customer, do quotation, and lots more..? i can do everything muahaha..jk. 90% at office de...sien..sit at chair whole day...sit till neck tired...lol..always find ways to go out....haha..not ponteng la..i go out...mean go out site...see site...! =)

sea site mean...go ppl new house..see...where to put air-con...how many horse power...tell them which brand good, price, haha. make deals...=) its fun...go construction there...banglo...woo...scared of height...stand 3 story tall look down kinda scary abit..? haha chicken me. i abit scare high if....there's no safety measures..?? hahaha. noob me noob...now..practise to do see site..next time i alone also can go see site will be awesome!!! whee...got customer ask me see his shop...hmm..but i scared duno what to explain LOL...hmm..confident confident chin soon. haha. customer from shah alam...hmm need some guide from god...bless me thanks. might bring along some list,book,quotation also ma...LOL..

lastly..i wan to serve god ministry...;) new usher now...lol..kinda fun...=) enjoy every moment of my life till i die...xD touchwood* ops..haha..as human all must die..lol. no la..just me.

What's the worst show on TV?

2010-07-11T03:13:00.001-07:00

something that so bored till can sleep...

Ask me anything

article from google.

2010-07-09T12:13:00.001-07:00

How to Discover Your Life Purpose in About 20 Minutes

January 16th, 2005 by Steve Pavlina Email this article to a friend

How do you discover your real purpose in life? I’m not talking about your job, your daily responsibilities, or even your long-term goals. I mean the real reason why you’re here at all — the very reason you exist.
Perhaps you’re a rather nihilistic person who doesn’t believe you have a purpose and that life has no meaning. Doesn’t matter. Not believing that you have a purpose won’t prevent you from discovering it, just as a lack of belief in gravity won’t prevent you from tripping. All that a lack of belief will do is make it take longer, so if you’re one of those people, just change the number 20 in the title of this blog entry to 40 (or 60 if you’re really stubborn). Most likely though if you don’t believe you have a purpose, then you probably won’t believe what I’m saying anyway, but even so, what’s the risk of investing an hour just in case?
Here’s a story about Bruce Lee which sets the stage for this little exercise. A master martial artist asked Bruce to teach him everything Bruce knew about martial arts. Bruce held up two cups, both filled with liquid. “The first cup,” said Bruce, “represents all of your knowledge about martial arts. The second cup represents all of my knowledge about martial arts. If you want to fill your cup with my knowledge, you must first empty your cup of your knowledge.”
If you want to discover your true purpose in life, you must first empty your mind of all the false purposes you’ve been taught (including the idea that you may have no purpose at all).
So how to discover your purpose in life? While there are many ways to do this, some of them fairly involved, here is one of the simplest that anyone can do. The more open you are to this process, and the more you expect it to work, the faster it will work for you. But not being open to it or having doubts about it or thinking it’s an entirely idiotic and meaningless waste of time won’t prevent it from working as long as you stick with it — again, it will just take longer to converge.
Here’s what to do:

Take out a blank sheet of paper or open up a word processor where you can type (I prefer the latter because it’s faster).
Write at the top, “What is my true purpose in life?”
Write an answer (any answer) that pops into your head. It doesn’t have to be a complete sentence. A short phrase is fine.
Repeat step 3 until you write the answer that makes you cry. This is your purpose.

That’s it. It doesn’t matter if you’re a counselor or an engineer or a bodybuilder. To some people this exercise will make perfect sense. To others it will seem utterly stupid. Usually it takes 15-20 minutes to clear your head of all the clutter and the social conditioning about what you think your purpose in life is. The false answers will come from your mind and your memories. But when the true answer finally arrives, it will feel like it’s coming to you from a different source entirely.
For those who are very entrenched in low-awareness living, it will take a lot longer to get all the false answers out, possibly more than an hour. But if you persist, after 100 or 200 or maybe even 500 answers, you’ll be struck by the answer that causes you to surge with emotion, the answer that breaks you. If you’ve never done this, it may very well sound silly to you. So let it seem silly, and do it anyway.
As you go through this process, some of your answers will be very similar. You may even re-list previous answers. Then you might head off on a new tangent and generate 10-20 more answers along some other theme. And that’s fine. You can list whatever answer pops into your head as long as you just keep writing.
At some point during the process (typically after about 50-100 answers), you may want to quit and just can’t see it converging. You may feel the urge to get up and make an excuse to do something else. That’s normal. Push past this resistance, and just keep writing. The feeling of resistance will eventually pass.
You may also discover a few answers that seem to give you a mini-surge of emotion, but they don’t quite make you cry — they’re just a bit off. Highlight those answers as you go along, so you can come back to them to generate new permutations. Each reflects a piece of your purpose, but individually they aren’t complete. When you start getting these kinds of answers, it just means you’re getting warm. Keep going.
It’s important to do this alone and with no interruptions. If you’re a nihilist, then feel free to start with the answer, “I don’t have a purpose,” or “Life is meaningless,” and take it from there. If you keep at it, you’ll still eventually converge.
When I did this exercise, it took me about 25 minutes, and I reached my final answer at step 106. Partial pieces of the answer (mini-surges) appeared at steps 17, 39, and 53, and then the bulk of it fell into place and was refined through steps 100-106. I felt the feeling of resistance (wanting to get up and do something else, expecting the process to fail, feeling very impatient and even irritated) around steps 55-60. At step 80 I took a 2-minute break to close my eyes, relax, clear my mind, and to focus on the intention for the answer to come to me — this was helpful as the answers I received after this break began to have greater clarity.
Here was my final answer: to live consciously and courageously, to resonate with love and compassion, to awaken the great spirits within others, and to leave this world in peace.
When you find your own unique answer to the question of why you’re here, you will feel it resonate with you deeply. The words will seem to have a special energy to you, and you will feel that energy whenever you read them.
Discovering your purpose is the easy part. The hard part is keeping it with you on a daily basis and working on yourself to the point where you become that purpose.
If you’re inclined to ask why this little process works, just put that question aside until after you’ve successfully completed it. Once you’ve done that, you’ll probably have your own answer to why it works. Most likely if you ask 10 different people why this works (people who’ve successfully completed it), you’ll get 10 different answers, all filtered through their individual belief systems, and each will contain its own reflection of truth.
Obviously, this process won’t work if you quit before convergence. I’d guesstimate that 80-90% of people should achieve convergence in less than an hour. If you’re really entrenched in your beliefs and resistant to the process, maybe it will take you 5 sessions and 3 hours, but I suspect that such people will simply quit early (like within the first 15 minutes) or won’t even attempt it at all. But if you’re drawn to read this blog (and haven’t been inclined to ban it from your life yet), then it’s doubtful you fall into this group.
Give it a shot! At the very least, you’ll learn one of two things: your true purpose in life -or- that you should unsubscribe from this blog.
Update 8/8/06: Be sure to read the follow-up to this article, especially if you’re having trouble with this particular approach (there’s an alternative method you can use): The Meaning of Life: Discover Your Purpose.
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33 Responses to “How to Discover Your Life Purpose in About 20 Minutes”

whoisnick.com » Crying with purpose Says:
January 17th, 2005 at 7:58 am [...] e blogs. Why? Becuase with an easy (and yet not easy at all) technique he helped me find my lifes purpose in about 40 minutes Sure, his title says 20 minutes, but you’ve got to [...]
Hans Says:
January 16th, 2005 at 8:21 pm Interesting approach, Steve. Several years ago I tried to identify my purpose by writing drafts of my epitath – how I would like to be remembered by others. In that exercise I had similar flashes of emotion when I got close to the “right” statement. Regardless of technique, the journey is what matters.
Rich Says:
January 16th, 2005 at 8:30 pm I haven’t read the article yet, but I just have to say that you have a very catchy title there!
whoisnick.com Says:
January 16th, 2005 at 11:58 pm Crying with purpose
Steve Pavlina is easily running up the list in my favorite blogs. Why? Becuase with an easy (and yet not easy at all) technique he helped me find my lifes purpose in about 40 minutes Sure, his title says 20 minutes, but you’ve got to have all you…
Oleg Says:
January 17th, 2005 at 8:19 am Hi Steve,
I have read your article and decided to give it a shot. I can remember having similar emotional experiences like you described, but I never did it consciously. After 40th answer I realized that I was going in circles around same idea. The closer I was to it the more emotional I became. Then I suddenly realized something so important that I had to stop and write these comments…
What’s the point of this exercise? Is it to realize ones ultimate goal? Or, is it just to find something that makes you cry? I mean, there are numerous things that make us emotional. For example, everyone wants to be remembered after his death. Does anyone want to be forgotten the day after? Everyone, wants to make a significant change in people’s life in one or another way. Who, for example, doesn’t want to be as influential as Bill Gates? (Lets not make comments about him being evil
Thus, the ultimate goal can easily become the most useless goal you can ever set. It will make you cry, but will it make you get up and do something towards achieving it? Steve, as you mentioned above: “Discovering your purpose is the easy part. The hard part is keeping it with you on a daily basis and working on yourself to the point where you become that purpose.” That’s true. For example, one realized that he wanted to do something so important that he would be remembered for ages. So what? It is too general. With such weak motivation I bet he will never make even one step.
Oleg Says:
January 17th, 2005 at 8:25 am Me again…
Steve, your articles are very motivational they make me think. Thank you. However, I believe there is one issue I just realized – the articles make me think, but they don’t make me get up and act. Here is my idea on how you can fill this empty spot at least for me:
As far as I understand you spent last 10 years writing games. Does word “Evercrack” mean anything to you? Gaming addiction? Despite it is all wrong and weird, it seems people addicted to MMORPG don’t have any problems with motivation at all. They don’t need anyone to “babysit” them, to write motivational articles on how it is great to play. At the same time they are people with weak motivation, unfulfilling jobs and evil bosses. They are people you are trying to wake up.
An average gamer spends 20 hours a week. I think actual numbers are much higher. Some servers have more than 200,000 people online at the same time. It is enourmous amount of energy and time people spend on something so pointelss. Take a minute to read this article http://wow.warcraftstrategy.com/printer_friendly_version.php?article=16
I personally worked with people who lost their jobs, friends, and one even lost his family. I worked in the same office with people who spent real money on virtual clothes and food. I can tell you that they were not stupid kids without parental control. They all were very intelegent and goal-oriented individuals in their late 20s. They realized that what they did was totally pointless and had to be stopped. There are numerous support groups like Everquest Widows. That’s all sad, but I don’t want you to focus on that. I want you to think about all this time and energy that people invest without any motivation at all. Just think about such enormous level of addiction generated without any effort. Do you know why is that? What if you, me, someone else could figure out what makes us so addicted to those virtual lives and then use it to develop strategy that will make us addicted to achieving our true goals in the real world? Will it be your next article?
snfg Says:
January 17th, 2005 at 9:28 am I think these instructions are flawed. Not because of the motivation issue that’s been raised already, but because I, personally, don’t want to spend my life working towards something that merely meets the criteria of “makes me cry”. I’m reminded of a quote…
Nothing is true unless it makes you laugh, but you don’t really understand it until it makes you cry. — _Illuminatus_, Robert Anton Wilson & Robert Shea
Steve Pavlina Says:
January 17th, 2005 at 9:55 am If you go in circles around the same idea but haven’t yet pinpointed it, then you didn’t finish. You can always take a break and come back to it fresh. Am I correct in assuming that the last couple posters didn’t actually finish? The exercise is fairly pointless if you don’t take it to completion. You can debate the possible merits of it until you’re blue in the face, but you can’t really gauge what the water is like until you’ve gone for a swim.
The point of the exercise is simply to awaken yourself to a purpose that is possibly much greater than what you’ve been living. What you do with that knowledge is up to you. Most people shrink from it; some grow into it.
You don’t get addicted to your purpose because you live it consciously. Addiction is unconscious. Living on purpose is a daily choice, not a habitual addiction. The goal isn’t to substitute one unconscious habit for another. It’s to become more fully conscious (which is basically the method through which people are able to break addictions, as opposed to merely redirecting them).
Your purpose isn’t going to drive you to action. That’s a reactive attitude. It may call you to it, but you have to consciously answer that call — proactively, not reactively. Goals and purposes don’t motivate you, but they can call upon you to motivate yourself. Expecting something outside you to motivate you makes you powerless to act. That “motivational something” has to come from inside you — you’re the motivator, not me, not a book, not an article. If you catch a glimpse of a great purpose within you and make excuses to do nothing with it (such as, “it’s too general”), then you’ll be the one burdened with the results of that choice.
I realize that may sound a bit harsh, but it’s true. As long as you believe something outside you must be the source of your motivation, then nothing you do for yourself can motivate you. You’ll be perpetually waiting for the stove to give you heat before you’ll give it wood. The responsibility for taking action, for motivating yourself, for finding your purpose or living without one … all lies with you alone.
“There is no philosophy by which I can do a thing if I think I cannot.” — Dr. James W. Parker (founder of Parker College)
X-Master Says:
January 17th, 2005 at 11:39 am Steve, can you please write some articles on motivation? In spite of some important accomplishments (I’m a successful entrepreneur and was an excellent developer before that), I have struggled hard with motivation and with getting myself to do something all my life.
Thank you!
Oleg Says:
January 17th, 2005 at 11:40 am I have to clarify that I have been going in circles around the idea I _already_knew_. I don’t know whether I have finished this particular exercise or not. What are the criteria of success? Tears coming from the eyes? Yes, it was emotional. I didn’t cry though. It’s just my individual reaction. You are not expecting everyone to actually cry, right?
Steve: “What you do with that knowledge is up to you. Most people shrink from it; some grow into it… Goals and purposes don’t motivate you, but they can call upon you to motivate yourself. Expecting something outside you to motivate you makes you powerless to act”
I have to disagree. Goals and purposes do motivate, but only when they are realistic and precise. If your goals don’t motivate you then those are not your goals or they are just too blurry so you can’t figure out how the hell you are going to achieve them.
Personally, I am not waiting for something external to motivate me. That would be just stupid. I am trying to find motivation inside myself and like many others looking for the books, articles that have answer or advice. I have not found anything on that yet. Most speak about purpose of life, goals, values, and feelings… While most of the people are concerned about only one aspect – “OK, I realized my purpose, my ultimate goal, whatever. Now what? How do I energize myself to actually achieve what I want?” Steve, we are not what we think, we are what we do. It is all about ACTION. You could be right saying that I like many others just making excuses to myself. I may even accept it. But, why would I make such excuses? This is my ultimate goal, that’s what I really want, right?
Steve: “The goal isn’t to substitute one unconscious habit for another.”
Addiction is unconscious. Well… I tend to agree. However, why would it be so bad if you unconsciously wanted to achieve your goals? We tend to do a lot of things unconsciously, brush our teeth, drive our cars, and… achieve our goals
X-Master Says:
January 17th, 2005 at 11:44 am Oleg, Steve has not written games such as Evercrack. He has written puzzle games, etc – which are good and help kinds and people who want to get their mind in motion.
I play chess on my PDA. The game was programmed and distributed by a guy like Steve. I have periods in which I play 2-3 games per day, and periods in which I play 2-3 games per week.
Playing chess helps me feel relaxed and exercise my mind. Chess doesn’t take over my life. VERY FEW GAMES ARE HARMFUL TO PEOPLE.
Steve Pavlina Says:
January 17th, 2005 at 12:06 pm If you do the exercise to completion, then yes… actually cry. Tears running down your face and all that. Like Robert De Niro in the movie Analyze This.
A smaller swelling of emotion is what I called a mini-surge in the blog entry. That isn’t enough and won’t do anything for you if you stop there. If you follow the pingback link from comment #4 above, you can see an account of someone who completed it. If you don’t expect to cry or define yourself as a person who doesn’t, that will only make the exercise take longer, but it will still eventually converge.
If you “already knew” the answer you think you know and seem to be going around it in circles without quite hitting the center, that’s what the Bruce Lee story in the original post was about. You need to let go of your attachment to what you expect to find in that circle. The true answer lies elsewhere; you’re only circling a false pre-conditioned answer, which is why you can’t get it to converge inside that circle. Just loosen up a bit on your expectations, relax your mind, head off in a new direction, and keep typing answers, one after another. You have to empty your cup first before you can fill it. The true answer always seems to come just a bit past the point where you’re ready to give up.
I know this process may sound silly, goofy, ooky-spooky, or whatever — don’t let that stop you though.
Oleg Says:
January 17th, 2005 at 12:41 pm X-Master,
You’ve got me wrong I am not trying to accuse Steve in writing harmful and addictive games. Neither I tried to prove that _all_ games are addictive and harmful. You missed whole point of what I wrote about MMORPGs. Please read my post again.
Rod Says:
January 18th, 2005 at 1:39 am Agh! You got me. I spent about 45 minutes doing the exercise last night, although I was a little put off when my wife burst into the room about 25 minutes into it. I got a few things that resonated, but nothing made me cry, so I was left wondering if I had been doing it right.
This morning I realised that even if I hadn’t found my life purpose, I was still feeling good because I’d managed to dump a whole load of baggage. Then, I was sitting at my desk at work and my mind went back to last night. I looked out of the window, saw that it was a beautiful sunny day, then … kablam! I had to bite my tongue to stop myself from embarrassing myself in front of my colleagues, because it hit me.
My true purpose in life is to enjoy the journey.
Nick Says:
January 18th, 2005 at 10:12 am Sorry, Steve. 40 minutes, 136 answers and nothing. No mini-surges, no crying, no nothing. I tried. I really did. But I honestly believe that this life we are living has no meaning or purpose. None. We are random bits of consciousness and nothing we do matters.
I know the things I like: sex, love, sports, reading, programming, good food, travels. But that doesn’t make a purpose. They are just my motivators. For them (or through them) I worked hard and I was able to accomplish quite a bit. But I know it is all empty in the end. It only serves my pleasure. It has no greater meaning or purpose.
And I am not complaining, actually. I kinda’ like what I do and how I do it. I am good at it and it is fun. But I know its only purpose is to self-serve me. To make me feel good. Incidentally it helps others around me (the objects of my affection, the people that use my creations or my employees and the people making money for me) but that is NOT my purpose in life.
Of course, I act as if it is. I have assigned it to be and it brings me where I want to go. But I know that is I whom I decided it. Because there is no such thing as a “true” purpose.
Oh, and all these ideas are after-fact explanations. I do not think I had them in mind when I completed the exercise. I wrote all the possible purposes I could think off, both small and great, both easy and impossible. I stopped when I had nothing else to write. I can’t think of any more purposes that are not simple variations or combinations of those 136.
But I won’t unsubscribe to your blog. I like your writing. Its fun, intelligent, and well meaning. Of course, it is naive and too new-age / nlp and conscience bull, but it’s well intentioned. You’re just spending too much damn time thinking about just living. Screw “live consciously” and just LIVE. Run, ski, dive, write code, have sex, enjoy yourself. Your way is just too much damn work: find purpose, find values, establish goals…
Nick
Kent Says:
January 18th, 2005 at 7:40 pm I’ve enjoyed pretty much everything you’ve written up to this point. I especially enjoyed the “Quantum Leap” article when you said in order for a rocket launched from earth to reach outer space, the rocket must exert a sufficient amount of sustained force to overcome the earth’s gravity. Then you analogized that to our situation in trying to produce change. I have an area of my life in which I need to “exert a sufficient amount of sustained force” to bring about a change, and I have found your analogy to be a powerful motivating force.
However, this current article seems out of character for you, and, I must say, inflexible. Everyone is going to cry? Come on! You may need to rethink this one. It’s too formulaic and inflexible. Different people react different ways. And for many people a crying experience never occurs, nor does an ‘aha’ experience. They simply slowly come to realize what is right for them over time.
JD Says:
January 19th, 2005 at 1:14 am I would go to the next step and say that once you have discovered your true purpose (and I completely understand what Steve’s saying, but I got there by a different route) and start to work towards it, then things start to flow. I worked for many years in a profession I was good at, and which made money, but I hated. I was constantly having to overcome obstacles to keep moving forward.
However, once I realised what my purpose is, it was as if I had tapped into a pipeline and the people and resources for me to move forward flowed without much effort on my part. In fact, some of the synchronistic events have been downright spooky!
So, I would strongly urge anyone to complete Steve’s exercise and then, when you have found the very thing that taps through to your core, then work towards it and see how much easier it all becomes. (With one caveat: you have to trust it … at times, you will be faced with apparent obstacles which you are strongly attached to and reluctant to abandon, even annoyed when they are not going your way. Let them go. Trust that the ‘right’ thing will come and, if you stay aware, you will notice that what takes its place is *so* much better than your own puny plan!)
Steve Pavlina Says:
January 19th, 2005 at 8:39 am Nick,
Surely you can generate more than 136 answers. Given your initial belief that life has no purpose, I would have pegged you as one of those 3-hour 5-session guys. But it’s not a lack of time or the ability to generate answers that’s stopping you, is it? Given your beliefs it doesn’t surprise me that you would stop yourself short of finishing.
Keep in mind that this exercise is more of a process of shedding and letting go vs. a hunting/finding process. The main purpose of populating the list is to clear all the false answers out of your mind, so you open yourself to the purposeful answer coming through. So in your case, you may not need to shed the idea of a false purpose but rather the idea of no purpose. I might suggest then that instead of asking the question, “What is my true purpose in life?” you try starting with a different question like, “Why do I believe my life has no purpose?” And see where that takes you. Again, the goal is to empty your mind to achieve the state of a “mind like water” where the answer that is true for you can come through clearly.
Purpose also involves choice. You don’t have to choose to live a purposeful life. You can freely choose not to. For several years (when I was an atheist), I also believed that life had no purpose or meaning. Consequently, I’ve developed a good understanding of what it’s like to live on both sides of the fence. If I merely looked at both possibilities from a standpoint of logic, based on the results I got, purpose wins hands down.
Richard Says:
January 19th, 2005 at 2:06 pm Steve,
While I did not do this exercise yet I did come up with a life purpose several months ago. I came up with:
“Live an extraordinary life”
My problem is that I don’t know how to do that. I have a lot of problems dealing with work. I don’t know if it is that I am unhappy with what I do or just working in a big corporate environment. I find the corporate world too limiting on what an individual can accomplish. I have considered moving into sales, construction and/or owning my own business as a possible alternative. I don’t know why but these seem like options to give a person the environment to ‘live’.
Do you or anyone else have any resources on how to find good jobs and careers that enable you to live an extraordinary life?
Steve Pavlina Says:
January 19th, 2005 at 3:05 pm Richard,
Your question is a common one, but it’s sort of backwards, which is why I don’t think you’ll be able to find a satisfactory answer. Your question contains the hidden assumption that jobs or careers are the enablers of an extraordinary life. I think that’s a false assumption.
For me it’s more of the opposite. If I wanted to live an extraordinary life, I’d forget about career or jobs for a minute. I’d just take a moment to define to myself what it means for me to do that. What is extraordinary? What does that word entail?
For example, if I were to define this for myself, an extraordinary life would mean a life of extraordinary service. So then I’d look at my talents and skills and desires and ask myself where I could best achieve that. Out of that line of questioning would pop out the job/career that’s right for me.
Crimson Says:
January 19th, 2005 at 4:45 pm I’ve become convinced than many people’s lack of satisfaction with life comes with a fundamental inability to deal with tediousness. No matter what you do and no matter how much you love it, there will always be moments where you have to deal with tedium.
As a programmer for example, I’m sure you’re familiar with it. While making games is fun, sitting down and figuring how to design an file access module that is cros-splatform is NOT fun (for most people). Not saying this applies to you per se, but it’s an example of something people in one career may reasonably be expected to encounter which is extremely boring, regardless of whether they like their career as a whole.
But I think a moment of transformation comes for those who get through this. All pre med majors know of the guys who couldn’t get through Biology or Organic chemistry and so had to drop. All compsci people know of guys who couldn’t handle the Math or C++ course and so had to drop. Rarely I think this is because these people aren’t smart enough to figure it out, but more often it’s because they aren’t willing to do what it takes to take their learning up a steep plateau to the next level.
Now the learning and tedium thing aren’t exactly aligned, but they are close. When learning a big new subject area, there’s often a tediousness that’s involved before you reach the point where you’re effective. Some people know how to handle this and others don’t. I think know how to maintain the drive to keep at it is also important (something I believe Steve discusses in one of his dexterity.com articles)
Steve Pavlina Says:
January 19th, 2005 at 5:33 pm I have a slight variation in my take on the tedium concept. While I’d agree that no line of work (even a purposeful one) is totally free of tedious activity, I think it’s not the tedium itself that stops people. I’d say it’s the question of “why should I put up with this” that causes people to stop themselves.
For example, I once tried to learn to play the piano. I found it really tedious and boring — and especially awkward as a left-hander. So I gave up within a matter of weeks. But there are those like my wife who learned to play beautifully. For me there wasn’t a strong enough “why” to learn to play music, but many others who do learn to play have a stronger reason to push through the tedium.
If you’re living on purpose, your capacity for putting up with failure, rejection, tedium, etc. will increase dramatically because you’ll have a very strong and compelling reason for pushing through. But without a compelling purpose, it will take a lot less of these obstacles to stop you in your tracks.
Crimson Says:
January 19th, 2005 at 9:09 pm Agreed, the “why” is important. But sometimes I question the purpose of a life where the why is defined by someone else. I know of many succesful students/professionals who were successful because they were pushed by their parents, afraid of looking dumb in front of their peers, or are afraid of losing a lifestyle, NOT because they had a strong internal drive to succeed. They go on to live outwardly successful lives, living in nice houses, driving nice cars, having the typical family, etc., but not because that’s what they chose to do, but because that’s what they were told to do. I think your excercise can be a good way to find that internal compass. For me personally, a “successful” life that was basically molded completely by the hands of others seems kind of empty. When you tell people like this that you’re just gonna leave your job, or up and move somewhere else, they always seem flabbergasted because you’re going off the well-worn trails of what you’re supposed to do. To me these are people who’s whole life is one based on reaction and fear, not concious choice, even though they’re materially successful.
Also, I think some people, myself included would be perfectly happy doing nothing. Well, not really “nothing”, but not doing any one thing and pursuing whatever interests you have at the time (traveling, cooking, studying, etc.). When I imagine a life of no work, I don’t see one of laying in front of the TV 24 hours per day, but one where I’m free to do whatever I please, whenever I please. Unfortunately, I’ve got to work hard to get to that point where I can be lazy.
Fortunately, I can use a skill that I love to use to try to get there and if I’m lucky, find some free time to pursue my other interests. That’s about as good of a medium I can find.
Crying dude Says:
January 20th, 2005 at 4:45 pm Hi Steve,
I tried this exercise for 5 times. I guess I am the one of those who is really stubborn. I did cry, but it was not the answer that made my cry. During this exercise I was listening to online radio. There was one particular melody that touched me so deeply. Just to be sure I tried this exercise one more time without any music. Nothing… Then I tried to listen to the same melody again and think about my true purpose… This time it was even more powerful. It made me cry again. Is this the answer? How to interpret it?
Steve Pavlina Says:
January 20th, 2005 at 7:24 pm When you open yourself to finding your purpose, it isn’t uncommon to find quirky little things happening whereby it seems like the universe is trying to help you find the answer. Some people take a fairly atypical route through this process. My interpretation of the music is that it’s not the final answer but rather a clue. How did the music make you feel? The feelings you name can help point you in the right direction… towards a new line of possible answers.
For example, I’m often inspired by music, and what’s most inspiring is that which evokes the feelings in me that reasonate with my purpose: being courageous, being awake and alive, being at peace, etc.
Just relax and focus on the intention to allow the answer to come to you. Again, this is a process of emptying yourself more than of trying to find the right answer.
Jethro Says:
January 25th, 2005 at 2:44 pm Steve,
Can your purpose change from time to time, or is it supposed to be constant throughout your whole life? I used to have a deep burning desire for doing meaningful work at a meaningful employer, but that aspect in my life just doesn’t matter that much anymore. I’m in my mid-20’s and right now the only thing that really gets me excited and ready to jump out of bed every morning is passionate romantic love, or the anticipation/challenge of trying to find it. And I should also mention that this purpose doesn’t even involve one particular woman, but it’s more like this ideal I have about sewing my wild oats.
So I’m not sure if having this as my purpose is just doing what you said not to do – letting my motivation exist outside of me and not within me. However, personally, I don’t think this is being outer-motivateed or attached to one particular event in space/time. But instead I am internally motivated by just the idea of romantic love. Just as a person who has a purpose involving “service” isn’t attached to particular outcomes or results of one instance he helps another, but is internally motivated by the whole idea of serving others. I don’t know.
I came up with some more general purposes and some others that probably sound more noble than just romance and sex. But honestly, these other more general/noble purposes just don’t move me as much as the thought of living a life full of romantic love.
As an example, in the past, I was deeply motivated by career accomplishment and working at these high-profile companies. I never stayed in a particular job longer than 1 year and I kept moving up and up the proverbial corporate ladder looking for the next challenge. And every job I had was the result of self-motivated self-education that I willingly did myself on my own free time and paid for with my own money. So even though that purpose wasn’t necessarily all that general or noble, and doesn’t really motivate me all that much today, I still think I was able to accomplish a lot while I had that particular purpose involving personal career advancement.
So I guess my question is should I just follow whatever current purpose that really seems to motivate me at this point in my life? Or am I selling myself short by not discovering a more universal or noble purpose? Or will the more noble life purposes, such as service and compassion, come to me later when I’m older and have more life experience?
Because one of my biggest fears right now is trying to help others and ending up making things even worse. Kind of like as if I was some pointy-haired manager who “inflicts” leadership and compassion on other people who don’t even need it.
Brian Yamabe Says:
February 15th, 2005 at 4:04 pm I was pretty sceptical about this. I tried sitting down and doing this for 20 minutes and felt some tugs, but I didn’t think there was anyway this was going to work. I kept putting down things like own my own business, have a successfull this, be good at that. Nothing. It seemed like something that might work for some, but not for me.
So, I was reading some other article by Steve today and found my way back to this one. After reading the article again, I still couldn’t imagine this working. I then started reading the comments and decided to follow trackback #4 as Steve suggested. whoisnick.com ’s purpose turned on some lightbulb and BAM! I was balling. I’ve found my purpose and it make sense. I think the people having trouble are taking the wrong approach. Your purpose is not something you do, it’s the reason you do things. One person’s purpose may sound like a goal to someone else and that is part of the reason why this is difficult.
In case you were wondering, my purpose is, “To be at home to raise my daughter.”
gtdlife Says:
March 11th, 2005 at 11:49 am My Purpose
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Warren Hicks Says:
June 11th, 2005 at 1:05 am Thank you Steve for a creative approach to the problem of finding out what a person’s purpose in life is. A couple of reflections though – in all the replies i didn’t find many revealing what they discovered. Were they embarrassed or did they discover something they felt was unreachable?
I discovered my purpose in life in quite another way – yet I think it might be possible to find it using your method if a person was really honest and prepared to allow his creator to speak to him.
OUr creator is keen that we discover it so he wrote it down and if we are prepared to take the journey he will also reveal it tous spiritually. In general terms it is to be Know the Son of God and to seek to imitate him.
thankful Says:
July 16th, 2005 at 2:08 pm 67. To make worthy of my love the unworthy, to enlighten those who are dull, to embolden those who need emboldening, to love a wife, to love children, to know, to learn, and to laugh and cry as much as possible with those who I love.
Kenneth Lantrip Says:
July 25th, 2005 at 3:29 pm Hmmm, Where do I start?
Let’s start at the beginning.
I was as lost as anyone on this subject, searching for purpose in my existance. And I mean, heavily searching. As in the kind of search for answers to keep you a participant in this world.
So one day about two months ago, I was thinking about conciousness and the soul. As in exactly what makes my conciousness me. I got to thinking about who I would be if I were cloned. Which body I would be in. The original at first but maybe the second if suddently the original died, say in it’s sleep. I would wake up in the second. I got to thinking, that if the thing that makes this person me is the pattern of processing in my brain, then copying that pattern is copying me. I would then be inside two bodies at once with some hidden tanglement connecting the two as one. If not, then the pattern is NOT what makes this person me.
Hmm, let’s go a little deeper. Since, I find myself in existance now, it is a hard “self-proovable” fact, that I do exist. The world around me may not exist as I perceive it. But I exists none the less.
What would happen IF there was no God and religion was just made up? Let’s think about that. Well, let’s see, first, I exist anyway. So when this body dies, so will the processing that makes it me. Hmm. Then what? Well, since time is infinite, and the atoms of this universe did happen to make me in existance once… It could happen again. And again. And again!
Oh dear, that kind of exposes a problem. What shall I do about this problem of hopping into existance over and over till…. the end of time… which, is NEVER???
Hmm, I think, I’ll need a safe place to spend my awake moments. If I’m lucky, I’ll land into an existance that will be enjoyable to be in. Unlucky might land me in a ground excavation machine, stuck in a mountain for a very long time with nothing but myself and my limited memories. Hmm, I wonder, if there are any entities out there that are already smart enough to have thought of this problem? Perhaps one that would care about us “lost souls” and that would create a safe place specifically for “holding” souls in say, a paradise of some sort. Hmm, that sounds a lot like GOD.
Maybe, there is something to religion, after all.
Long story short… I personally don’t think God created people specifically. He created a creating ground that would allow us lucky souls to come into his existance. Once here, it is our responsiblity to seek the safety that he has provided.
And in that, you can find, the grand purpose for your life, and everyone around you.

movie eclipse

2010-07-08T10:35:00.000-07:00

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hmm rest rest

2010-07-05T00:59:00.000-07:00

helo...so after working for 3 months. now i realise money isn't easy to earn...hmm...work so hard...earn so little...i even have a quoto for it: work like shit, earn a shit. i cre8 de...xD

resigned jo..hmm manager say maybe i can go other branch work, or no need work...i say i wan work in senHeng somemore. hmm..waiting his results/reply...duno when lor...he not really keep promise de...not sure not sure la...=.='

ytd went futsal with ethan,ian, they all...happy happy day...haha. run whole court...chase 1 ball LOLZ...so i tired...stand 1 corner...wait ball come LOL. kai qin ask me run around. get ball and shoot..haha. i get ball d...but cannot even enter goal once...thanks to the pro goalkeeper-chia chia...=)

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resigned 2july 2010

2010-07-02T11:18:00.000-07:00

finally resigned..better than kena fired..? =.='

morning. 11am. woke up late...see h-phone. wow. s.t got smsed me back. telling me the road to the work place. hmm. faster text back. im coming on the way. lolz. rush pack and go.

reached there...11.45am???wtf..so late...45-50minit late..adoi..really bad impression...said sorry. jammed, lost, woke up late...haiz. late is late. no more excuses accepted...puntualnity down down down...

discuss discuss. ask ask talk talk..hmm learned alot from her...tone-nality, image, CONFIdence to speak, mature look, discipline, hard-working..alot la i need to improve with myself...=.='' my main bad attitude of me is Sturbburn, lanci, like talk back...arghh i hate my kiasu-ness....=.=''

fun talk with her...okay drive back home. raining....wuwu...TT...go back home take guitar. den go summit...change a new set..cuz dented. =) Alip( from guitar planet) teach me a few basic. xD do-re-mi..haha. quite fun although some of u think is easy...interesting XD happy....

go back...think..think...go fetch elaine 1st...okay go straight to elaine house...wait her under a tree...ring* phone ring...she say...packing. need help carry can? i say can..! wait. i coming.xD lolz...she like bring her whole house item there lor...like go camping for 1 month LOL..1day..carry many stuff...so cute.elmo,pillow..etc...its fun to meet her up...my burden ease a few...cuz ytd had a big fight with collegue...haiz. dun wan talk d. den now....okay okay la...parents understand enuff....dun pressure me. i cant take stress,pressure de...wuwuwu..TT bully me...haiz

problem come in myself. always blame myself...argh..duno so hard to change my atitude also..=.='' sien

go w28 cg...miss a turn...go a huge round back...go thru kelana jaya there..omg...so far..patrol all habis diguna...sigh*...sien stupid dumb dumb me. reached there around 8.15? aiyo..almost over d...sigh sigh...sien.

felt dumb lo..noob kia..miss 1 turn = die....duno how go back...sigh.

thanks ethan and w28 pray for me..appreciate it.

went to mamak near pyramid. wow. brazil lost. unbelieveable match...haha. geng man netherland...jia you. support u..

eat alot drink alot...=) had fun time with w28 and others fren there too...=)

go back home. thank god bring me home safely cuz i really drive dangerous la.......=.=

oh ya i bought a webcam, guitar book at summit...all broke with happy mood HAHA....funny broke also happy...duno la...work so hard. wan spent all..but still satisfied...blek. :P kay la cya ppl...=)

grrr what a super bad day

2010-07-01T08:03:00.000-07:00

argh...bad bad day...disaster again.

go work...no kent no fiona...no fun. hafiz complain here and there...fussy this and that...i also fuzzy lor...

damn u c.pome. hate 9 u. carry ur thing urself la idiot fucker head. CDM stock come always need me help you?!!! cant u do it urself? fuck face. >:@ i got customer around also call me for lan jiao ar??? fuck it u idiot bastard son of a useless dog bitch.i already tolerate alot times d...this time i no mood to tolerate cuz im tired today and i slept 4.30am ytd...wan tolerate also really no mood. cb kia lu...macaohai...go hell la.

carry in stock. put a side...customer..i go serve him lo...c.pome. keep call me help him put stock upstairs..o0o (O.o) o0o. fuck u lar!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i pissed...i go stairs there...

ChinSoon: apa lu mao?
Cb Pome: tolong la angkat stock nie...nanti Alan balik MARAH MARAH~~~ etc...
ChinSoon: you ambik la sendiri...asyik je suruh suruh...ko nie...pandai la suruh suruh...???!!!! pissed mode*
Cb Pome: cis eleh..saya nie mintak tolong. bukan suruh suruh. faham tak?? ko nie...buat orang marah marah u la...
ChinSoon: ingat tak hari lepas. kamu cakap eleh chinsoon kamu nie pandai suruh suruh orang buat kerja?? i masih ingat perkataan kamu tau????!!! o0o (O.o) o0o

i carry up...and say: u nie...asyik je tau mintak tolong...kamu pergi mintak tolong bapak ko datang tolong u la. suruh emak pun boleh...

C.Pome watching with me ragingly...point at me. say u ar..jgn cakap cakap ayah mak saya tau!ko jaga a...

i dun care and went upstasirs...so....

fight begins :D

he go up scold me continue...then...push me? i push him harder..xD fight fight...ROAR fire vs fire liao...i not using water...damn u c.pome. make me really pissed 100% max.

wan fight fight la...say what wan respect me?!! PUIiii...respect lanjiao??!! recject my cock can steam la...=.= fucker hai lan diao hai noob fuck idiot samseng kid ever...

fight fight...then i run down...i scare muahaha. i noe i chicken. i punch him in face. run down...go counter there...

i spoke. hafiz saya nak ambik leave..emergency leave.nak balik sekarang.

hafiz ask why this and that. and refuse me going back.

i tell him lo c.pome and me fight. bla bla bla. long story...damn fuck.pissed.PISSED..i wan go back also he dun let...tears* coming flowing...customer all watchin i and hafiz argueing...fuck la.lanjiao..then i dun care...tapao 1 LCD LG 32 420D then go take my bag ciao back home.

reach home around 4pm. phone dad tell him lo..he say i really useless la..:P then..4.15pm i bath..call elaine and go fetch her...:P

saw her..hustle..tired mood..my mood also very very sick and bad at the same time...i dun wan thing get worst...but..i go tell her..=.='' haiz...nvm la. no one will understand me. maybe lucifier...xD

fetch her..den..go summit...buy electric guitar rm874. come back. noticed. abit dented...dark dark colour 1 part...eeee...ugly la!!!...i call mr Yong. he say tmr can change..i like..WOW thanks man.=D =D friday i go change..=) i wan a nice 1 la..dun give me ugly de..!!!=(

buy d..then go back. raining...jammed. go home bath. play guitar. talk with mum. then go church again...

reached church. ethan ffked me...funny. waited 20minit. no ppl come..but sms keep coming in. say what coming now.coming now...coming now...almost reach....nearby his car there...fuck u.when u sms me that time. i already at home la lan jiao lu...o0o o0o.

now at here blogging with a very bad temper mood. = die mood.

welcome to my life die mood.

shit day...really pissed.

2010-07-01T07:45:00.000-07:00

Shit
	buy shit mugs, tshirts and magnets The Most Functional English Word Well, it's shit...that's right, shit! Shit may just be the most functional word in the English language. Examples: You can get shit-faced, Be shit out of luck, or have shit for brains. With a little effort, you can get your shit together, Find a place for your shit, Or be asked to shit or get off the pot. You can smoke shit, buy shit, sell shit, lose shit, find shit, forget shit, and tell others to eat shit. Some people know their shit, while others can't tell the difference between Shit and Shinola. There are lucky shits, dumb shits, crazy shits, There is bull shit, horse shit and chicken shit. You can throw shit, sling shit, catch shit, shoot the shit, or duck when the shit hits the fan. You can give a shit or serve shit on a shingle. You can find yourself in deep shit or be happier than a pig in shit. Some days are colder than shit, some days are hotter than shit, and some days are just plain shitty. Some music sounds like shit, things can look like shit, and there are times when you feel like shit. You can have too much shit, not enough shit, the right shit, the wrong shit or a lot of weird shit. You can carry shit, have a mountain of shit, or find yourself up shits creek without a paddle. Sometimes everything you touch turns to shit and other times you fall in a bucket of shit and come out smelling like a rose. When you stop to consider all the facts, it's the basic building block of the English language. And remember, once you know your shit, you don't need to know anything else!

Mizz Nina feat.Colby O'Donis - What you waiting for [ Official Music Vid...

2010-06-26T17:54:00.000-07:00

friday ;D

2010-06-24T20:08:00.000-07:00

whee its friday...yayyy offday. now at home...blogging. nothing to do much except game. maple story..lvl 141 bishop...hard lvl. duno go where train fast fast lvl lolz..train at dragon nest egg there lor...lol. gm restart server i off a while, come blog.

night have w10 cg. whee...theme is Pyjamas. and i dun have pyjamas. i sleep with normal home outfit de la..lol. will try get 1 maybe?duno yet...

hmm go take rest 1st...ciaoz

4days training SenHeng...happy

2010-06-24T08:11:00.000-07:00

whee 4 days training at senHeng HQ, pandan jaya, KL finally over. but i miss all of those patner and friends there lo...haha

meet 1 very funny guy name ah haw..lol. he so scared that he will fail the test..hmm.dun worry bro. u can do it i believe in u...so..5pm do test.finish around 6pm. say goodbye. go back showroom. hmm jammed+ wrong way..haiz...sien.

wasted alot money due to traffic and tol plaza and offcuz patrol...around RM100 i guess..=.=''big spender...lolz

always go lost no where...jammed...=.='' KL where nice to go...driver sick lo...passenger sure fun la. can travel when i lost haha. nothing much happen...go pump patrol and back taipan McD meet elaine, xinyi, ka yuen haha. i was playing xinyi new i-phone lolz. really envy ppl is so rich...><'' i wan to be rich too..=D

took some picx..will upload at fb. haha. thanks for reading my post, will update more often if i could. ;D

22 june 2010

2010-06-23T08:10:00.000-07:00

morning...late go taipan fetch collegue..=.='' so i went there alone lor...hmph~ all dun wan wait nvm la....bla...drive drive...sesat here and there...haiz...sigh sigh...2nd day drive also sesat...lmao...noob driver lor...

training was awesome funny, 1 guy...after teacher teach finish all topic. he raised his hand asked teacher: i dun understand. teacher: which u dun understand? his name is Ah Haw. Haw: i duno from start u speaking till the end...the whole class was like...-.-'' lmao...teacher ask him do 1vs1 tuition later lo...haha~ anyway he is nice. good friend. got passion to learn more. and not be silent like dumb people lor...:) good for me if keep asking questions. good attitude to learn. haha.

finish training.6pm. went down. i was OMG. pasar malam. car packed between it...=.='' i wonder how to reverse it lo...get some help around there...all really helpless lo...all with rude behaviour >:@ haiz...malay wat 2 do...got chinese aunty comeby help me ask me reverse...i was ok...reverse lor...start start engine. mati engine. start mati. start mati. 4-5 times...grrr...frastruating...like whole street looking at me...and doing helpless look at me. say me noob drive. duno reverse blah blah...and so so much unfriendly lo...really make me tensened up dou...sigh sigh sigh la...finally out d...drive with my frastruating mood going on...=.=''

went back. called ethan. ask him where is him? haha. he say he at chc-prayer meeting. i was..hmm i want to go!!but i called back office. hmm boss say need go back work. then guai guai go back...work work~

10pm..finish work whee~~ happy. close shop everything...go chc fast fast. reached there 10.10pm roughly...over dy lolz. nvm la. i come wan meet ethan , andy only haha. but we go mamak at Beans, ss15 was awesome.

when ethan packed his car, we came down walk to Beans. then walk walk, i saw a handphone pink colour de...i thought was some spoil phone cover drop on the floor. then i shouted: PHONE! pick up..eh still got light o...haha. but some cheap phone la...nokia basic phone. lupa what model. so i placed in my pocket. ask ethan what to do with it...he say...bring it to police station o. then i okay~ :)

reached Beans. saw alot ppl there also...so joined together...whee~~chit chat with them. but i ter-share some rasist issue...ethan say dun talk about that topic lor...i was hmm okay la...haha wan share my prob i have ma...but he say he wan fellowship. then i say ok la. ;D

had really fun time there. time pass fastby...suddenly the phone vibrate in my pocket..hmm. someone must be calling. should be the owner...haha. so i pass to andy make decision how to do with it...haha. then Clarissa say ask that owner to come church la. lolz. hmm...nice try nice try but fail...:P nvm la...return them ok d lo..dun wan cari pasal with malay...=.=''

chit chat, take photo,video den say farewell and good bye. what a awesome day. <3 them all~~ ;D

11june 2010

2010-06-11T11:51:00.000-07:00

whee. today 6am start sleep. till...1.30? wake up...come downstairs...bro just back from skul. i asked him, he went skul..? why wear home shirt and long pants only? he answered..its like that lo..everyone also same. hmm...weird lick hung not strict de meh..?=.=''

then online awhile..play maple, sudden attack, facebook, msn a while...felt tired again lolz. so i sms ethan ask whether today got cg cuz w10 don't have cg today...hmm..he say got. so i called him. haha. he working as he said...lolz. he say 5.30 he come my house picked me up. so i say ok. :)

so i went sleep back ^^...sleep sleep..till 5pm..wake up...stretch stretch...yawn yawn..still tired...bone ache here and there...muscle pain...tune on radio hear Mix.fm...haha. raining also boom boom...roaring thunder*. faster off comp, tv. suddenly...5minit, flash light went thru, BOOm...a huge thunder strike outside...neighbour alarm went e-or.e-orrr..e-orrrr non stop...i was phew..lucky i manage off comp,tv in time...after that..i went check my home phone..wa..the home phone rosak...no line at all...haiz..lucky only phone rosak not pc...pc rosak i'll cry weih...TT haha...

then get ready...around 5.40pm ethan reached my house with jonathan. went in in hustle bussle...haha. then to picked Cleo at Segi College..wa..was jammed at there...fetched d...go highway also jammed...go halfway ethan's car out of patrol. so he went and pump patrol at shell...i haha i go in shell shop buy some drinks for them.:) buy 4 milos. got free 2 crayons...they took really long* to find d crayon..=.= everyone waiting..paiseh weih..lol.

so...journey move on..go kdu college picked hui min up...she is tired as i can see haha...so we just rest in car...enjoy scenery...and even rainbow too...:) talk, chit-chat...on praise,worship songs...thanks to ethan. hehex...so later i reach there easy to sing also lolx...

7.15pm finally reach destination- jasrynn house. everyone was there waiting...w33 and w28...wendee was upset..everyone was scolded cuz we are late, didnt prepare everything...dissapointed lo. we felt sad too..:'(
but, afterall wendee serment went well..quite interesting...i like her preaching...happy ^^

around 10.30pm. go mamak-kopitam eat...had really fun time there fellowship. lolx...know them more..:) and i'm glad cleo went there too.!! haha...around 11. we went back jasrynn house take stuff and go back home lo...haha

in andy's car...we had alot funny funny weird topic to laugh...lolx la...:) really had a fun and enjoyable day today. laugh laugh laugh all the time...lolz

Nightwish - Amaranth

2010-06-07T10:28:00.000-07:00

[[HD]] SNSD少女时代 - Kissin'You+BabyBaby+Girls'Generation (080411)

2010-06-02T19:01:00.001-07:00

Hillsong - The Freedom We Know - With Subtitles/Lyrics

2010-06-02T19:01:00.000-07:00

very stressful day

2010-06-01T11:25:00.001-07:00

super tired and stress day...sad

Hi all. 1st June :)

2010-05-31T11:00:00.001-07:00

today is the 1st of june...i do hope all things went well during this month...pray hard.

Tips For How to Get a Flat Stomach :)

2010-05-27T10:41:00.000-07:00

Stomach feeling flabby or just want to do a little toning up to get it looking good? Let these tips be your guide.

1. Eat healthier and cut down junk food, such as replacing potato chips and chocolates with fruits. You'll see a world of difference.

2. Watch how many soft drinks you consume. Consider flavored water as an alternative if you must.

3. Do aerobic exercises daily at 30 minutes minimum and include 1-2 days of rest break each week. Anything that brings your heart rate up. Take up dancing, running, tae-bo, swimming, and walking at a good pace.

4. Eat lots of lean protein (like beans and nuts - have some meat, it is rather good for you as long as you do not eat the fat!), fruits and dark vegetables, and whole grain breads and grains. If you eat "whole wheat" it's like the same as eating white bread- all the good fibers have been stripped away. These "whole grains" keep you fuller longer than white breads like cakes, cookies, and sweets. Also, stay away from high-fat dairy products (low-fat dairy products are a great source of protein and calcium).

5. To better work the entire abdominal region, vary your exercises: Crunches work the upper abdomen, leg raises work the lower abdomen, side bends work the obliques (also known as love handles). Sure, you can do 100 daily crunches. But if you've got a layer of fat covering up your ab work then what's the point? You need to burn the top layer of stomach fat to see the changes.

6. Consider some form of an aerobic exercise as well. Some simple resistance training or light weight lifting will not only help you burn fat more efficiently but tone up the rest of your body as well.

7. Raising your metabolic rate is crucial. The higher your metabolic rate, the more energy (and thus fat) you'll burn even when you aren't doing anything. Try compound exercises like deadlifts with heavier weights.

8. Do a lot of cardio.

9. To increase your metabolic rate, increase the frequency of your meals to 6-8 times a day. Every 2 to 3 hours, ingest a small meal. This increased frequency will put your metabolisim into overdrive. WARNING: Do not over-eat! Small meals only. For greatest effect, only eat carbohydrates before 2:00 p.m, from then on only proteins.

10. Make sure you don't eat anything 2 hours before you sleep. Your body slows down when you sleep so you can't digest food properly.

11. Some of the best exercise for achieving flat stomach are Abdominal Crunches, Vaccum Pose and Belly Rubs, Stomach Twisting, Belly Resting Exercise, Russian Twist, Hip Raise Exercise, Dumbbell Side Bends, Leg Lift Exercise, Air Cycling, Knees In and Out, Sit Ups, Inclined Sit Ups, Front Squat, Reverse Crunches, Ball Crunches, Log Roll, Ab Tuck, The Crab Ab Workout, Side Crunches, V Crunches, Chin Up Crunches, Hanging Leg Raise and Hanging Knee Raise.

Tuesday 25 May 2010

2010-05-25T08:48:00.001-07:00

just realised sometimes people u hate...sometimes they quite useful at times...!!! thank you for last minit helped me. I really don't know what to do under the night fixing that fan...wow...really cant doubt people capability although we think they not that helpful at time come...But hey! they help alot though...Hmm...maybe i'll change my thought over him?? hmm...can can.:D:D thanks! had a awesome work day today although all last minit customer de...but still very very satisfied. 1 hour OT. Thank you so much for d help...

[HD] MV - Cabi song (Caribbean Bay) 2PM & SNSD

2010-05-22T10:30:00.000-07:00

CNBLUE - LOVE MV

2010-05-18T19:04:00.000-07:00

Super Junior - BONAMANA ( May,14,10 )

2010-05-14T10:51:00.000-07:00

SNSD - Tell Me Your Wish (Genie) Live HQ 090718

2010-05-13T10:31:00.000-07:00

Kris Allen - To Make You Feel My Love w/ lyrics ( NEW SENSATION :)

2010-05-03T09:50:00.000-07:00

今日freestyle:每天自戀多一些

2010-05-03T09:16:00.000-07:00

helo people...hahahaha

2010-05-03T08:29:00.000-07:00

wow...how u guys doing? haha..me okay la...where 2 start. okay from saturday...sat was worker conference...i had a wonderful day. i meet takyee jie, samuel, dar ray, gideon!! felt so happy meeting them back. because they travel go study/ work other place in malaysia...haha tak yee, dar ray = study doctor. samuel and gideon take over some fgt church- sam johor. gideon-kota kinabalu(sabah). wow...nice cool are they...ahahaha.

me was okay la...now not that moody feeling. but still tired. sleepy sometimes at work. hahaha..but dun dare fall asleep. so i keep walk walk around...keep ask them wan buy drinks/foods ahaha...so nt easy sleep loh...x) i reli dun like c.pome. he ar...always scold vulgar words, blame ppl, ask ppl go job...haiz...he...keep ask me do this and that. i obey...i ask he for help...he..walao...say : pergi buat la sendiri! i was like...okay sweep 1 floor also hard job for u? so next time everything also i DO MYSELF!!! erghh...haiz...next time also lazy wan choi him that idiot..hahahahahaha...shh dun tell him...xD

okay i got alot bad habits need improve man: 1. late for work. can say i late alot times liao...damn scared...haiz. need go early but this comp...haiz. kill me pls. 2nd. attitude. alot need improve my attitude problems haiz...alot alot....uncountable...ahaha!!! 3rd Communication. i need to learn good communication skills, expressions too..hahaha duno where to learn...maybe i get some from my seniors la...awesome...:)

ytd ken belanja us makan steamboat...all the senior keep looking at me...say wow...chinsoon u can reli eat alot...u thin but u can reli eat! ahaha...i was..erm..okay la boleh la. jika nak makan lebih...sya boleh makan banyak..ahaha...they say i king eater...not waste to bring me to a buffet dinner next time :D is a good thing or not i duno...ahaha...i eat alot good stuff: prawn, crabs, fish, chicken, Oyster, etc...mMmmm...so nice food...ahaha sapu all...xD

Lastly, i wan thank Jesus for everything...i know he is with me...:) guiding me...protect me...give me support thru hard times...even i having hard time is he plan for me! he wants me to learn~ xD example. i late. i did ask casher help me time in pls...but. casher didnt help. she say no help help in work...be serious...That time i was...kinda hate/angry at her cuz she promose will help me time in...but she didnt...she wan me to more obbedience in life...cant always late and giving all chances man...hahahaha...okay i wan thank god and jesus...everything la..just thank you god. Amen. Church moments was awesome...:) fellowship rocks! do mission here and there...but need money also ma...no money cantg build churches...so, i need earn more, tie more lol. i will try la...maybe do it..!! haha ciaoz...bye nites!

[M/V] 2PM "Without U" from DON'T STOP CAN'T STOP

2010-05-02T10:52:00.000-07:00

SNSD - Run Devil Run ( May,02,10 ) GoodBye Stage

2010-05-02T10:44:00.000-07:00

[HQ] ƒ(x)- Chocolate Love MV Ver. 2

2010-05-02T10:40:00.000-07:00

yiruma- riv3r fl0ws in you...

2010-05-02T09:40:00.001-07:00

mood was okay la :) shakyyy...still unstable la!

2010-04-30T10:08:00.001-07:00

listen la to senior...not teaching senior...to make it so perfect till...haiz...they also frastruated...haha. typical me! changing myself for own good...dream big! i can do it...x)

cant be so straight forward person already...need to discipline myself more often, think wisely before words come out from tongue...sometimes even a tiny joke...its CUts...so sharp...till its cuts!!!...aww...

visited pastor nearby taipan de...get some advise...xD...being sampat de me lo...go travel here and there...:D Advise today was: read the word of god...study bible everyday, having relationship with him, do quiet time..Devotion...ask for favor...god will provide time if u reli wanna hv the time for him...:) learn alot too...thanks pastor Ann.

Timbaland feat. Katy perry - If we ever meet again lyrics

2010-04-27T18:58:00.000-07:00

2010-04-27T12:05:00.000-07:00

Which of the following are you doing -- or are planning to do -- to get your ex-girlfriend back? (Check the ones that apply to you.)
   Promising her you'll change -- and that things will be different from now on
  Persuading her to have a conversation with you to talk about ways that you can
        patch up your relationship
  Assuring her that you love her and that she'll always be the only woman for you
Telling her you'll always be her friend -- and that you're always there for her
        whenever she needs you
Sending her flowers or a heartwarming letter or card
If you checked one or more of the above, I have some bad news for you. None -- I repeat, none -- of the above ploys will make your ex-girlfriend come back to you -- no matter what the other so-called relationship "gurus," books and courses tell you.

The fact is... ploys, tricks, mind games or any form of manipulation and persuasion that you might have heard about do not work on a lasting basis. While they could be effective in getting your ex-girlfriend back temporarily, she'll be gone again as soon as she sees the reality behind the ploy. Worst of all, your ploys could backfire on you -- and repel her away from you for good.

Listen, I know the pain and desperation you're probably feeling right now, trying every drastic measure to get your ex--girlfriend back. Why? Because I've been in your shoes. I've suffered the misery of getting "dumped" by a girlfriend on more occasions than I care to admit.

But after beating the odds and getting a girl back without fail on many occasions -- and after having had over 1,200 personal consultations with men whom I've helped to get their ex-girlfriends back -- I've discovered that there are only 5 effective approaches to successfully getting a girl back.
To Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back, You Must Do the Opposite of What You Think You Should Do

All 5 of the effective approaches are counter-intuitive. They're almost the EXACT OPPOSITE of what you've been taught to do to reconcile your relationship with a woman.

These 5 proven approaches -- which fit virtually all cases or circumstances of a relationship break-up -- are based on one secret.

That secret is the hidden psychology of women.
Listen closely. Women have patterns of psychological behavior – and if you learn to harmonize with those patterns, you can get any ex-girlfriend back into your life -- virtually with mathematical certainty.
In the next 5 minutes, as you read this article in its entirety, you'll discover...

The #1 reason why you've failed to get your ex-girlfriend back... It’s incredibly frustrating to her that you don’t already know what she wants (sound familiar?) She wants you to find out on your own!
Why everything you're doing now is pushing her further away (and into the arms of another man).
The often overlooked concept every man needs to know about relationships and how it's directly responsible for your breakup (ALL women talk about this behind our backs) -- it's more important to your ex than food and she will either get it from you, or from somewhere else.
A step-by-step strategy that virtually guarantees to make her want to come running back into your arms and stay there forever... no matter how unique or hopeless you feel your situation is.

And we'll go over all this in a moment. But first, let's address that burning question you're bound to be asking yourself...
Who Am I And How Did I Come To Know All This?

My name is Dr. George Karanastasis. I am a physician but my knowledge of relationships doesn't come from school or some prestigious university. I learned these lessons the hard way -- one by one through a string of painful breakups. But it wasn't until my last relationship that everything "clicked": for the first time in my life I finally understood exactly why women leave in the first place and what makes them want to come back.

Now I'm not a professional writer but what I have to share with you is so extraordinary and so powerful I just had to let you in on it myself... so please bear with me while I tell you this story.

I remember it like it was yesterday. My girlfriend and I had been together for almost 4 years and things were going great. Then one day she called me out of the blue, and blurted out four words that stopped me dead in my tracks….

“We Need To Talk”

I felt the ground giving out from under my feet. I knew where this was going. I’d heard this phrase before. Then she got straight to the point, “I think we should take some time apart.”

Those words hit me like a ton of bricks. I never saw this coming.

At first I resisted, I begged her to reconsider, but my pleas were in vain. Her mind was made up. She wanted “space” and there was nothing I could do about it.

That’s when the sobering reality set in. She was out of my life, from one moment to the next. All I had left were vivid memories flashing through my head: the first time we met, our first date, the first kiss…

I tried reasoning with myself that everything would be OK, but each day that passed was a constant reminder of our times together, and how things would never be the same again.

I just couldn’t let her go...

I Felt Like I Was Coming Off A Drug And Needed One More ‘Fix’ To Get Through This

By the third day I was a wreck. I was bordering insanity. It was then that the urge to meet her came over me like a freight train.

I worked up the courage to dial her number and suggested lunch, but she shut me down faster than a "pack of dogs on a 3-legged cat". She sent me spinning into a frenzy.

This went on for days. I would call, e-mail, and send dozens of text messages but she wouldn’t budge. I was losing my mind. The more she resisted, the crazier I would get, until one night we got into a such heated fight she told me to “never call again”.

In my state of despair I reached out to her one last time.

Then Things Took A Twist…

I hadn’t heard from her for days. I thought I’d lost for good. But what I didn’t know was that our final conversation would set into motion the events that would later rush her back into my arms.

Two weeks after this conversation she called me and asked to meet. Once again, she’d left me speechless. I was smiling so hard my cheeks hurt. I was no longer on the giving end of this broken relationship. I stared getting back.

That’s when I realized my biggest mistake. It all made sense. I finally broke through to her by doing the exact things everyone told me would NOT work.

Now, even though my relationship was unique -- the principles that saved it are not. They can be successfully applied to any situation because they're based on a woman's deep-rooted psychology. And I've gone on to prove this by helping more than 1,200 men who were unlucky enough to lose their girls.

I'm not telling you this to brag, but to point to the fact that this is an incredible opportunity that is available to you -- but only if you take the first step. Your first step is to read this article in its entirety. Please don't just skim through it -- I don't want you to miss a single word because when I demystify the process of getting your ex-girlfriend back, you simply cannot fail to take this breakup and turn it into a stronger, healthier relationship with her.

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So let's begin...

Do You Know The #1 Reason Why Everything You’ve Tried Has Failed To Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back?

Every single guy I've consulted with was guilty of making this fatal mistake: acting out of despair and desperation while trying to get her back. There's no question that you're doing the same. And it's plain to see why given the emotions that go hand in hand with a breakup. But despite this fact, if you don't stop everything you're doing right now and start using the right approach... you risk losing her forever.

Why? Because women despise needy guys. They will not be pressured, persuaded, tricked, or manipulated into getting back into a relationship. What they're looking for is a man who understands their innermost desires -- they're desperate to be understood on that level.

Now here's something to chew on: she wants to come back to you right this very moment… she's just waiting for you to pave the way for her return. How do I know? Because I've seen it happen time and time again... I've seen men (men on the verge of giving up on their ex-girlfriends) take their breakups and effortlessly turn them into a stronger, healthier relationships by following a few key pieces of my advice.

"I'm now in a relationship with a girl I'm absolutely crazy about. I've used the advice you gave in regards to the rules of attraction... and everything you said was absolutely correct. I couldn't be happier at the moment, and I owe it to you. Thank you. Keep up the wonderful work... I'm sure you're going to help a lot of people." -- Eric C.

And what's more is that they were shocked to discover how simple the whole process was once they understood the concept behind it (we'll get to that in a second). But heed this word of warning: she's not going to wait around forever. If you continue to act this way she'll soon move on to somebody else.

So listen closely to what I'm about to reveal to you...

The Often Overlooked Concept Every Man Needs To Know About Relationships (And How It’s Directly Responsible For Your Breakup)...

What if I told you that if you learn one simple concept -- that from that day forward, your ex-girlfriend would immediately start taking steps towards you to get back together?

If you are like most guys in this situation, I'm sure you're saying: "What is that concept -- and how fast can I learn it?" But the fact is, simple concepts are the ones most often ignored.

You see, getting your ex-girlfriend back is clearly a matter of knowing what she wants... and giving it to her. Now here's where things gets messy: most men don't have a clue what that is. What's worse is that most women don't either... and the one's that do -- simply won't tell you. They'd rather eat dirt than hand over the combination to their hearts.

The bottom line is that you, me, and every other guy has to figure this out on their own. And the fact that you don't already know it is directly responsible for your breakup.

Now here's where things get interesting... given my track record with women I thought I was the only guy "in the dark" when it came to maintaining a relationship... but I was dead wrong. After helping so many men get their ex-girlfriends back it became quite obvious that I wasn't alone. It was then that I started toying with the idea of compiling their experiences (as well as my own) into something tangible and teaching them to others on a larger level.

That did it!

The Birth Of “How To Get Her Back For Good”...

A shortcut strategy for getting your ex-girlfriend back into your arms (and keeping her there) borne out of the successful experiences of over 1,200 personal consultations.

It's obvious that if you’re going to see through this breakup you need all the help you can get. You need an insider with a clear perspective on your situation to take you by the hand and spoon-feed you the information to guide you through this.

But be careful who’s advice you take...

There are a lot of "gurus" out there preaching a "one-size-fits-all-approach" to relationship repair. But nothing could be further from the truth.

It’s crucial for you to realize that when it comes to getting an ex-girlfriend back there's not 1 but 5 different approaches. If you choose to use the wrong one (or worse... one that's tailored to women) you could end up losing her forever.

And unlike other books and courses that provide advice on using persuasion, tricks, games, and manipulation tactics that are ineffective, this course offers counter-intuitive psychological strategies for getting your ex-girlfriend back – strategies that have been proven effective through personal experience as well as over 1,200 personal consultations with men.

Here Are Just A ‘Few’ Of The Juiciest Secrets I Reveal To You In This Book:

	How and when to bring up the subject of getting back together so that she agrees (there's a right way and a wrong way to do this – the former works like a charm, while the latter fails every single time).
	What to say to her when she calls you -- what you should talk about and which subject you should avoid like the plague (not only that, but you'll discover the exact attitude that plays a HUGE role in winning her back). This is a crucial make-or-break strategy.
	How to make her realize the she stands to lose YOU. All by itself, this technique is powerful enough to single-handedly get her to come running back.
	How to re-ignite her passion for the relationship... and want you as more than just a friend.
	The stone cold truth about why she broke up with you (HINT: it's not what she told you. But when you understand the real reason, getting her back can be as simple as correcting this mistake).
	How to shift the 'balance of power' in your favor so that when she does come back... it will be on your terms, not hers.
	4 things men do in a relationship that women DESPISE (all of these are easy to eliminate and this alone can put an end to your breakup and bring her back into your arms).

When You Become an Owner of This Course, You’re Never Left Without a ‘Game Plan’ and Here’s Why...

The detailed mind-maps (graphical representations) included at the end of the book will hold your hand every step of the way... through every possible scenario. You'll never be left wondering what your "next move" should be in getting your girlfriend back.

And if you think that's impressive, wait till you see what else is in store for you...

	Is she dating someone else? If so, did you know that you can make her realize she'd rather be with you? See page 96 for all the details (then sit back as she kicks him to the curb and comes running back to you).
	Dealing with a long distance relationship? Turn to page 93 (immediately) to learn what it takes to make this work (sadly, your situation doesn't stand a chance if you don't do THIS).
	A simple exercise that rids you of all pain; it takes just 10 minutes to complete but works like gangbusters (and remember, you must be in control of your emotions if you're going to save your relationship).
	What to do once you're back together (and the crucial steps you must take to make this relationship stronger than it ever was).
	And much, much more…

Now I know what you're thinking...

“Will This Work For Me?”

Look, I realize that your situation is unique (perhaps quite complicated). And you know what? It is unique. In fact, each one of my readers had a story that was different from everyone else's. Because every breakup is unique.

And that's the reason why this course is so effective. Let me explain…

While your situation is bound to include details that separate it from any other… its main characteristics lets us put it into 1 of 5 categories.

And there's a different approach you should take based on each of these categories (as opposed to a single plan that’s supposed to work for everyone, but in reality doesn't). You see, it’s not the minor details you need to be concerned with… but the major factors that are directly responsible for your breakup.

And the strategies outlined in this course address these factors because they’re all based on deep-rooted psychology (instincts) - something measurable and predictable in all people.

So with the above in mind, you can be certain that this will work for you - regardless of your age, or how complicated your situation is -- and regardless of how 'stubborn' or 'strong' your girlfriend might be.

Not only that, but...

You Can Expect Immediate Results...

And here’s what I mean by this…

Have you ever faced a challenge (aside from this breakup) you believed could not be overcome. And no matter what you tried, or how hard your persisted... you couldn’t get through it?

And just when you had lost all hope… you stumbled on to something - anything - that gave you the strength to push through... and triumph in the face of this obstacle?

Well that’s exactly what will happen when you become an owner of this course. The moment you start reading through it -- a calming feeling will rush over you. You'll feel like the fog has been lifted from your eyes; you’ll know exactly what to do from that point forward -- and you'll push through until she's back in your arms.

And I know this because that’s what many of my readers describe after going through this material... how it gave them a new perspective -- and the strength to go out there and get their girls back.

So let’s get into the details…

Why This Is Different From Any Other “Ex-Back” Book You May Have Read...

Your choices are practically limitless when it comes to relationship repair books. And I’ll be the first to admit -- some are quite good. But nevertheless, here are the 2 main factors that set this course apart from any other:

1. It's based on personal experience...

In other words, I've been in your shoes so I know exactly what you’re going through…

I know what it’s like to get your heart broken by the woman you love; to lose all hope of ever getting her back -- and agonize over who might "replace" you in the near future.

More importantly, I know exactly what it takes to save a relationship -- and the amazing feeling you'll get when you she's back in your arms.

And unlike other authors with no real-world experience of what you're going through… I won't waste your time with:

Unproven theories that should work (but often don’t) or…
Useless tactics that seem good on paper -- that lift your spirits when you read about them -- but fail to give you the results you want (i.e. your girlfriend)

Instead, you get to follow in my footsteps until she confesses her undying love to you - the same way my ex did - and those of my readers.

2. It's custom-tailored to your relationship...

If there's one thing you should know about separations, it's this: every breakup is unique. When it comes to getting a girl back… "One size does NOT fit all."

And that's the major drawback of most other books out there: they assume that your situation is the same as everyone else's. Then they suggest you follow the same strategy as everyone else (or worse, the same strategy that woman use when trying to get a boyfriend back).

Sure, while they all reveal the fundamentals of relationship repair (the same ones you'll discover when you read through this course)… they fail to mention the crucial factors that are needed to bring your girl back.

What's more is that they all assume you broke up yesterday. They don't take into account how long ago your relationship ended.

But this book -- aside from being based on my personal experiences -- is also based on the experiences of over 1,200 other men. Because after it's initial release I personally consulted with more than a twelve-hundred readers. Then I updated the course to include every possible breakup situation (and it's solution) imaginable.

Here's what this means to you...

You have a proven blueprint to get your girlfriend back -- regardless of whether you broke up yesterday… or a year ago; whether she lives in your home, across town, or even an ocean away.

How Much Is Your Relationship Worth To You?

A year ago when I was struggling through my harsh breakup, if someone had offered me this shockingly simple solution to get my girlfriend back I would have begged to pay them $100, $200, even $300 for it. I would have gladly paid that much instead of going through those months of pure gut-wrenching agony.

How about you? How much is all this worth to you? What is the value of discovering these insider secrets to tear through the barrier of your breakup and have her racing back to you? What is the value of shielding yourself from the months of misery and crippling uncertainty, wondering if you’ll ever get back together?

“I Got My Ex Back In 14 Days”

"Firstly I would like to thank you for guidance through this difficult period that we all face at some point or another in our lives. Your book gave me confidence, courage and a clear mind in dealing with my relationship trouble. The way in which it is written and it's content are ideal and complementary in giving rise to the "correct" mindset.I got my ex back in 14 days. She broke down the first time after 5 days, but I told her we would speak about us when she comes to see me injanuary (as we are in a long distance relationship). Thank you for your support and great work."
-- George C.

“She Wants To Have A Proper Crack At Things Again”

"I just thought I'd let you know that the system obviously works, as I now get begging, pleading and crying from the ex, saying she wants to have a proper crack at things again."
-- Alex M.

“We Are Now Back Together, But On My Terms”

"Thank you, my ordeal is now over and i am back with my girlfriend. After doing what you instructed she confessed that she couldn't handle loosing me and we are now back together, but on my terms. The story went like this..."
-- Nick N.

Just spending one hour with a relationship coach will cost you as much as $150. Even so, you would still need six to seven sessions to merely scratch the surface of the strategies included in this course with someone that doesn’t have first-hand experience with your situation. Saving your relationship would run you up $900 or more.

But the good news is that you don’t have to pay $900 for these untold secrets to get your girlfriend back. So how much am I asking for this incredible resource? Only $39.99. This is much less than the cost of just one hour with a relationship "coach".

The best part?

Because this is a digital book, you get instant access to these strategies so you can start getting your girlfriend back right now.

But It Gets Even Better…

Because not only are you getting the tools to take charge of your breakup and turn it around faster than you’ve ever dreamed possible (tools put together through the contributions of over 1200 men), you get to see with your own eyes exactly how these guys acted on this advice to get their girlfriends back.

That’s because I took the time to document and present to you a series of real life case studies to complement this course: "Case Closed: Real Life Examples Of Men’s Relationship Repair".

They not only show you that these strategies work but they show you how and in what situations they work best, and the devastating mistakes you should avoid at all costs.

Because when it comes to an issue as serious as saving your relationship, I want to make sure you have every "weapon" at your disposal to see you through this.

And let’s face the facts: nothing will help you more in getting your girlfriend back than learning through step-by-step examples of guys who’ve already been there and done that

And One Last Thing…

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And By The Way… You Risk Absolutely Nothing...

Look, I’m not asking you to commit to anything. All I ask is that you hear me out. If after going through this course you decide it can’t help you repair your relationship, I’ll give you your money back… ALL OF IT, no questions asked. And you get to keep everything just for giving this a shot.

Why? Because I’ll be the first to admit that all relationships can’t be saved and to make you such a guarantee would be insane.

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So take your time with this course. You have a full 60 days to go through it. Why? Because I’m that confident the information within delivers on my promise to get your girlfriend back. And I’m inviting you to take me up on that promise without any risk whatsoever.

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**Why You Must Act Immediately If You’re Going to Get Her Back...**

Listen, now is the time to stop being depressed -- to stop being confused -- and to start taking action. As you sit there reading this, I know you’re thinking of all the great times you’ll be sharing with your girlfriend once again by becoming an owner of this course. However, I want to warn you that it’s critical for you to act now.

Why?

Because the more recent your breakup, the higher your chances of getting her back. That means that you’re staring at a big window of opportunity that is closing one second at a time. If you fail to act on this now and continue to sit there waiting for a miracle to happen on its own, you could end up losing her forever.

Look, 30 days from now you can be nothing more than more than a month older -- grinding it out in the same sad situation -- or you can be well on your way to a better and stronger relationship with the girl you love. You decide.

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Here's to Your Relationship,

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P.S. I forgot to mention: by being an owner of this course you get free updates for life that will not only help you get her back, but also make your relationship stronger than it ever was. This course is, and will continue to be, a steady flow of inside information as more and more guys share their success stories with me after acting on this advice to get their girlfriends back, so lock in your position now and become a part of this inner circle of relationship prosperity.

P.P.S. Here is what other readers are saying about this course...

“You’re So On The Money”

"Hello. I downloaded your book yesterday afternoon and read the first part then just finished the second part last night. Awesome book. I wish that I read it ten years ago when I broke up with this great gal from back home. You’re so on the money. Thanks for your great insight."

-- Chuck from LA

“Anyone Who Is Going Through This With Someone They Love Can Benefit From His Advice”

"My girlfriend recently left me and I was completely blown away, I was depressed, emotional and my self-esteem was gone. I reacted like most of us do by begging, arguing, pressing and trying to convince her to come back and things would be different. I was being ruled by my emotions. This book helped me get perspective on the situation and see things from a different point of view. With the help of his book I was able to get control of my emotions and start working on a way to get her back in my life. It is not an easy process but if you take the effort to really try it and understand it can work. While I haven’t accomplished my final goal I am making progress towards it. Anyone who is going through this with someone they love can benefit from his advice. Thanks again!!"
-- Christian Root

“…Begging Me To Come Over And Come Back To Her”

"Within 2 weeks, she was texting me, emailing me, trying to make me jealous, and then finally calling me begging me to come over and come back to her."
-- Alexander C.

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Ways to Say Sorry haha!

2010-04-27T11:56:00.000-07:00

Ways to Say Sorry!!

In every worthwhile relationship of family, friends, lovers, co-workers, or neighbors, there will be good times and not so good times. Everyone at some point in time will have to come up with ways to say sorry to someone else. Notice I said worthwhile, if you don’t want a caring, nurturing, or friendly relationship, don’t find any ways to say sorry.

The sheer numbers of ways to say sorry outnumber the stars in the sky. There are cute ways, romantic ways, funny ways, dramatic ways, and serious ways. There are other ways to say sorry: tickling, back rubs, it doesn’t matter how you say you’re sorry, just say you’re sorry!
Here are some samples of ways to say sorry:

Send flowers with a I’m sorry card
Send a singing telegram
Buy tickets to the game/opera/play/show
Write a sorry poem
Do belly dances for them
Mow the yard(s)
Do all the housework
Skywrite I’m sorry
Pay all the bills out of your own money for a month
Take the kids on a Dads/Moms day and leave Mom/Dad at home

I could go on and on about how many ways to say sorry that there is, use your imagination. The more severe the transgression, the more sincere the apology should be. What I mean is; if your blunder was not to show up for dinner, a handwritten note with enough money to cover what they spent is a good start.

Some funny ways to say sorry are going to a comedy club or renting a clown to shape balloon animals for them. Romantic ways to say sorry could be a candlelit seaside dinner or a quiet secluded picnic on an island. Cute ways to say sorry could be building a stuffed animal and putting their name on it and giving it to them with a cute balloon. The dramatic ways to say sorry could be to rent a billboard, have the chef write I’m sorry on your after dinner desert or you could drop down on bended knee and beg her forgiveness.

Many ways to say sorry are dependent upon the resources of the person searching for ways to say sorry, the distance between the people and the creativity of the person looking for the ways to say sorry. Cheaper ways to say sorry are cleaning his car for him (don’t forget the windows!), letting him watch the ‘big game’, or buying her ‘sorry gift’ at a pawn shop.

Good Luck!

stress, doing my best...

2010-04-27T09:52:00.000-07:00

helo all...work was stress, anxious, keep worrying cant do the job done what they wanted, abit scared? hmm alot probs la...learning to DO my best...not TRy anymore...:) thanks hafiz for backing me UP...reli a good senior/fren/supervisor to me....glad to have him in work area that he can helps me alot...god reli do reply my request i guess? thanks Lord Jesus for everything...for bringing a good nice fren to me, guide me thru difficulties, protection over me although i have so much trouble sometimes...i sometimes just wanna end my life in work..stress like some cow plow the field like that. so tired, stress, body ache..NOt only that...i already like half dead fish...that Idiot C.pome come make thing worst...i alot probs going in and out my mind...he come add fire-oil...make me more STRESS. he reli geting my nerve sometimes..!@#$ sometimes with HIM! okay enuff with that...as Jesus said...we must Love our enermy...i Trying my best to do that too..love him haha...must be tolerate although he IS BEING SO SO SO FUSSY, COMPLAINFUL, and Unfriendly sometimes...must endure about that...work life is seriously different...now i learn alot in this work place...i felt blessed and thankful. really need thank god, family, friend for all the support to me!! Thank You...

s.h.e...wootssss loves

2010-04-25T10:45:00.001-07:00

how to be a good boy...

2010-04-21T17:56:00.000-07:00

How to Be Polite if You Are a Male Teen

Having good manners and being polite as a male teen is easy if you follow these common sense rules.

Tips:

Steps

1
Practice how to start a conversation. Be positive and pleasant. Begin by asking a question that does not involve yourself. Avoid controversial subjects. Ask a couple more questions to keep the conversation going. If you are at party avoid putting down the host's food, music, etc. You could be talking to the host's sister!

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Learn how to end a conversation. Always say "It has been nice or pleasant talking to you. I will call (or speak) to you later." If you leave one message for someone on their phone, don't follow it with another unless it is an emergency.
3
Glance behind you when you walk through the door. It does not matter if it is a man or woman- do not slam the door behind you! Hold the door open for the other person.
4
Keep apologies simple.
5
Show up on time for theatre, film or concert. It shows you respect other people. Do not talk during the performance- even if it is very loud.
6
Observe dress codes. Play it safe if you are invited to a nice restaurant bring a suit/dinner jacket. If you are inviting a friend to go with you then find if a jacket is required then tell him.
7
Offer a nice comment to your host or hostess if offered a drink or dish that you do not like. Say "No thank you." Do not ask for something else or complain that you don't like it.
8
Greet all of your guests warmly if you are having a party. Also show them where the food and drinks are. You want your guests to be relaxed and at ease. Do not try to impress them! If something gets broken then don't make a big deal about it. If you want your guests to leave put all drinks and food away.
9
Stand up when introduced. Pull out chairs for any females.
10
Respect the traditions of social introductions. Always say the name of the oldest person first. Always introduce a man to the woman. It is important to make introductions because if you don't, it is considered rude.
11
Study how older men dance at weddings, clubs etc. Take dance lessons or rent DVD's on how to dance. Follow the rhythm of the beat. If a girl/woman asks you to dance never say "no" but you only are obligated to dance one dance with her. Make sure you look directly at your dancing partner, not all over the around the room. Always say "thank you" afterwards.
12
Always Write thank you cards to your grandparents, aunts and uncles, etc. for presents. It is hard to do sometimes but it lets the other person know that you got the gift. E-mails do not count!

Tips

Try to make others feel comfortable during a conversation.

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Use "please" and "thank you" with everyone in your life. Make it a habit and it will stay with you.
If you start a telephone conversation then it is your responsibility to end a telephone conversation.
If your are sick, don't go anywhere! Be considerate.
If you are lost then ask for directions. Don't make friends wait while you drive around. It is rude.
In a theatre, church, lecture or concert where people have gathered, turn off your cell phone.
If you feel a bad cough coming on during the performance, leave the theatre.
If invited to a wedding. Sit on the left side if you are a friend of the bride. Right side if friend of the groom. Make sure if there is dancing, you ask different girls especially the brides maids.
As you walk through a revolving door go slow and by yourself. Make other people feel safe and respect their space.
At public laundries- do not take other people's clothes out of the machine. Clean the lint filter in dryer.
Even if you are by yourself, don't drink milk or juice directly from the bottle.
At the gym don't hog the machines, work out but don't show off. Bring your own towel.Clean up after yourself.
If your fly is open, quickly zip it up. Do not apologize. Tell another male if his fly is open very quietly.
Always offer to share your umbrella. Wear gloves during cold weather because cold fingers are not pleasant during a hand shake.
Don't tell racist, sexist or homophobic jokes. Don't laugh at them either.
Say "excuse me" if you need to get by someone.
If walking your dog or a friends- it is your responsibility to clean up the dog poop. Most parks have clean up bags or bring your own.
If going into a synagogue, wear a yarmulke if offered. It is a sign of respect.

edit Warnings

Do not make yourself the center of attention. Your goal is to make life easier for other people by making them comfortable.
Don't brag, whine or make idle threats to someone. You sound like a fool.
Don't pick your nose in public or in your car.
Be really careful wearing cologne. It is horrible and annoying if you wear too much.
Never be the last to leave a party or the first to arrive.
Do not wear a baseball cap inside most public buildings especially church.
If you make a reservation at a restaurant for a date- don't cancel the dinner without calling the restaurant too.
Do not ask certain questions when you are invited to a party such as "Who else will be there?" or "What will you be serving?"
Do not shout at deaf or blind people.
Do not fawn or make a big deal over famous people. Simple respect is fine. Do not intrude on them especially if they are having a conversation.
Do not lean in your chair or tip it back.
Do not take your pets to other people's homes unless you have been asked to. If you are around a friend's dog don't tease it or make it bark.
Do not applaud until the theatre or musical performance is over. If not sure, then wait for audience.
Do not be pretentious.

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how to be polite...

2010-04-21T17:53:00.000-07:00

Some nice article about polite...(:

How to Politely Let Someone At Work Know They Are Disturbing You...

So often in the workplace, there is someone who disturbs you by talking too much, asks you too many questions, laughs too loud or just plain annoys and constantly interrupts you. You may be dealing with a person that whenever they get off a phone call, they just have to tell you all about their conversation, word for word. What can you do when you have work to get done and need to focus and really wished this person would just stop bothering you. Try these steps to get back to work.

Tips:

Instructions

Step 1
Next time you are disturbed, take the person somewhere where you can be alone for a moment. Be serious, but don't appear to be angry or upset, even if you are. By taking them somewhere private, you are setting the stage and gaining their undivided attention.
Step 2
Explain to them that you do enjoy working with them and point out some positive points about them. There is always something positive you can say, even if you have to dig a little deep to find it.
Step 3
Explain to this person that you have a little problem in that you are the type of person who is easily interrupted and can loose focus pretty quickly when your train of thought is broken. Say something like this, "I'm sure you are not aware of it, but you interrupt me and I lose focus on what I am doing or thinking about and often have to start all over again to get back to where I was. I know you don't mean to do this and I just have one little request of you..."
Step 4
Describe your request. You might say something like, "Next time you want to tell me about something or ask me a question, all I ask is that you look at what I am doing first. If I don't appear to be involved with something, simply call out my name and ask me if it is a good time to talk about something, or to listen to what you have to say. Then wait for my response back to you rather than continuing to talk. If it isn't a good time, I will say something quick like, 'Not right now,' or 'Let's talk at our next break. ' How does that sound to you?"
Step 5
Now wait for their response. Chances are, they will be surprised that they were disturbing you, and may even apologize to you. Let them know that you are sincerely thankful for their understanding your particular personality and do appreciate their help. The person should leave the meeting with a feeling of slight shame, but also that they will be helping you out by complying with your simple request.

2010-04-20T08:51:00.000-07:00

hi peeps...haha...i post alot video recently in my blog...LOL...cuz i do like korean music, dancers...xD.
work place was Okay liao...now stable abit lo...nothing much than outing with elaine's cg outing at ian's appartment...hmm the place was nice but the security was very strict for us. ahaha...play play frisbee in the swimpool. shouting playing around. suddenly 1 uncle shouted at us...scold us lo..say we play so loud...till whole appartment can hear...sob...that time we all silent liao...all start emo emo face jo...ahaha i also emo la...play pipe water...blek. then take shirt go change...wow...there's a sauna room in that toilet area there too...i went in la. quite nice la sauna room. 1st time in a sauna room la...ahaha...LOL then go back home sleep. on the way back...and there...almost sesat here and there...thanks to them who lead me the way...cuz i really dunno the road in highway...-.- i seriously need gps system...anyone sells here? offer me (: after that 4pm went fgt church. learn bout friendship. quite nice not that boring subject that i already know all about it...ahaha...after that 6 go chc church. adoi sesat again...spin here, u-turn here and there...only reach...lmao. not bad pray with them then go bakkutteh with them...food nt bad but abit pricy for me...LOL...end of the day...is really nice and fruitful..i do enjoyed. thanks so much...for being my lifemates. (:

stressssssss lvl 80% 2weeks only...goshhhh

2010-04-19T08:57:00.001-07:00

work already so so so tired and stress...come back wan a small thing also cannot...make thing go big...haiz....what a life i have...breakdown lo keep like this...haiz....joker everywhere...haiz...so many problems...haha...stop fooling around. and stop asking me : "are you fooling around?".
*And the one who fooling around is you...haiz. joker sia...haiz....so senior.Act so...naive...sorry to say man...haiz. can be serious abit in work ma? i dun think is funny le...i think is lame ass man...haiz. end up, i also confuse what is true and false thinggg..haiz.Stress!

100411 SNSD ' Oh! ' @ Chocolate

2010-04-17T18:25:00.000-07:00

david archuleta-zero gravity [lyrics on screen]

2010-04-15T10:55:00.000-07:00

love seoul

2010-04-14T12:34:00.001-07:00

snsd song winks*

2010-04-14T12:10:00.000-07:00

2010-04-14T10:23:00.001-07:00

God do answer prayer

2010-04-14T10:07:00.000-07:00

hi people...how your day? mine was shaky...shaky lo..haha ytd i tot im dead by today...haha. but nope. boss fall sick. then...left 4 ppl in the shop. quite free today...not so stress out...eventhough i do all shifting stuff by myself...i don't grumpy over it...not like sometimes that C.pome...walao...seriously get my nerve 1...i wash toilet...he come scold me say why i no help him up with the stock this and that...he likes to complain about me leh...like snipe me from behind -.- fine fine...get over it la...i need to make a stand. independance dude...u cant always ask me do this and that as our standard are the same. Trainee only okay...do yourself la. when i need help...u ignored me. then...u ask me help u..i mai also ignored u la...then dun blame/scold/complain bad about me f*cker...essh...cant stand these kind of ppl...kiam siap...kia-su, lanci type...haiz...emo nowadays man...lucky today was OKAY! best day la...kent belanja me Milo Dinosaur...haha...he ask me buy whatever i want...so i went Paparich bought milo dinosour, ice lemon tea, kopi ice. Tapao...wow almost rm12-14...duno la...1 milo dinosaur also rm 4.80. gosh...i make him like almost bankcrupt..hahahaha! funny...hmm just that...time going home he keep warn me this and that. ask me: Chi Sin..this is the last time i tell u...u must guard the door there...u cant go in Hi-5 room there do ntg, watch tv, u come to work, not to slack,sleep,lazy...this is not the 1st time already. ChinSoon: i...i...i...was...was...checking the tv volume...why...cant...open...:'(. Kent: dun talk non-sence...dun do stupid things...ChiSin ChinSoon: Alright...sorry x) went back home with a glummy,emo,moody face...walk walk to the car...think back a while. Hmm...he did belanja me some things...why i so emo for???!!! aiyo cheer up la..pls...dun emo!! haha...fine...since he did belanja me something...okok just chill................ChinSoon u need be patience, endure enougghhhh man!! this like a test for u...if u cant tahan this test..= u fail dude...fail..............no need find other job.................i was Okay...need be tough and strong liao..!! haha i like talk to myself de...i got 2 chinsoon in my mind...playing around xD...like ask here and there...like what they always say...angel and devil playing around in our mind...LOL!! haha...went back...abit emo...so bought many many food ! friend rice+ fried egg+ sao rou (babi bakar) add rm2 de...hahaha total rm7.70 only ma...wanted add lagi la...haha...got 1 day...emo dou...eat till rm10...from 4.50 add...add...adddddd...till rm10...wow...incredible...i ate 3 bowl rice...soya...chicken rice+ char sao rice...yum! haha the ppl there was like wow...eat so many? i: hehe...smiles...in side heart say: i EMO la...i wan eat eat eat........eat till i die also nvm!!! grr...:@ LOL working...was superb tiring...especially if all 8 staff ppl is there...tired until...cant even take a break...T_T

work work work..

2010-04-12T09:14:00.000-07:00

hmm everyday work work work...wmao. Work My Ass Off~~ woots!! ahah...hmm nothing much. busy with customers, sales, stock shifting...busy busy...woots...haha! hmm...ppl say i lembab and kiasu...hmm I NEED A ATTITUDE CONSULTANT!!! xD

wrong last post...paiseh

2010-04-11T11:54:00.001-07:00

ChrisT.

CHrisT~~

2010-04-11T11:51:00.001-07:00

pics...forget upload...sorry~

2010-04-11T11:41:00.000-07:00

CS= Ching Shen. haha we are cs team! :)

didnt take a good one...sorry, hope u dont mind...:)

Jeffery wei tiong(black shirt). Sorry blur abit..back is ching shen in white.

thinking...( wan aim where/which hole, target.)

ready 2 fire~~ LOL...haha. not bad la them....normal only...

Had fun playing pool...not bad...at ss15, asiacafe 2nd floor. rm15 per hour...@@

complicated T_T

2010-04-11T11:36:00.000-07:00

moody recently...rumours alot..haiz...lazy care bout it...-.- working all the while....wheeeeee cool...tired, back-ache, leg pain...BUT FUN!! haha...upload more pic later la...:)

pool last friday WAS SUPERB Awesome!! Jeff teach me play...haha pool rulez easy...just that i cant aim well xD...NOOB! haha...but not bad la for 1st time...:) Jeffery car pool me too..haha. Later on Tham Ching Shen, best pal also...come from Sungai Buloh visit me!!!...aww...i felt so warm, touch...ppl come so far just wan meet up...and not fong fei kei me...:):) so happy la that day!!! ahha...Pool...i like play but dun like the place...smoking area. I went back home...all shirt smell smoke...-.- adoi...haha!! anyway its okay just wash it...XD Night more FUN!...went cell group at elaine house...LOL nice cg there...:) enjoyed...thanks so much elaine for providing such a nice cg,servise,transport for me and my bro...:) appreciated it so much..! haha. Hmm...thier cg fren is nice 2 talk with too...haha damn funny they all...cant belive i'm 20!!! wahaha...i know i look young like 16,17...xDDDD look young is good!!! hehe!! so fun and funny la...LOL. thats all lo...

Having some prob with the gathering part-primary lo...make me...emo, moody, sad, heart break, wan die...haiz. lazy care bout it liao...leave it there...they wan talk...let them...Thanks Jing Huan for cheering me up. I hope can find more nice, good, true friend that can actually share our problems with...a really nice friend...indeed...:)

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Chomeheart & Usher team!

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YeeSAnnnn

RnB & Hip Hop Remix 2010 !!!! Dj SoToS

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Hope of Life.

Charice - "Pyramid" featuring Iyaz - Studio Version

Justin Bieber - Somebody To Love Remix ft. Usher

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[HD]100214 SeoHyun(SNSD) & Shin Seunghun - Falling Slowly @ Open Concert

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woohoo...raya !

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Lighthouse Everything Skit

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w10 photoshot...

Merdeka!! =)

Step Up 3

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sick

whee 100th post for my blog ^^

whee its august.

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luv it...

obbedience is what god wants from us.

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movie eclipse

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resigned 2july 2010

grrr what a super bad day

shit day...really pissed.

Mizz Nina feat.Colby O'Donis - What you waiting for [ Official Music Vid...

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4days training SenHeng...happy

22 june 2010

11june 2010

Nightwish - Amaranth

[[HD]] SNSD少女时代 - Kissin'You+BabyBaby+Girls'Generation (080411)

Hillsong - The Freedom We Know - With Subtitles/Lyrics

very stressful day

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[HD] MV - Cabi song (Caribbean Bay) 2PM & SNSD

CNBLUE - LOVE MV

Super Junior - BONAMANA ( May,14,10 )

SNSD - Tell Me Your Wish (Genie) Live HQ 090718

Kris Allen - To Make You Feel My Love w/ lyrics ( NEW SENSATION :)

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SNSD - Run Devil Run ( May,02,10 ) GoodBye Stage

[HQ] ƒ(x)- Chocolate Love MV Ver. 2

声をきかせて　／　BIGBANG （OFFICIAL MV）

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